Don't be too extreme in life and work, leave yourself some way out!

Life is like playing chess, experts always keep a few active eyes. Those who do things completely are often the first to fall into dire straits. The saying of our ancestors' 'full of losses, humble benefits' is not without reason. Let's take a look at why smart people know how to leave room for error. Why can't we do things too thoroughly?

1. Interpersonal relationships require flexible space.

It's easy to say goodbye, but difficult to repair relationships. Hard liners who are either black or white in the workplace are often the first to be marginalized. psychological research shows that moderately vague expressions are actually more likely to reach consensus.

2. Environmental changes require adaptability

Today's absolute correctness may be tomorrow's mistake. Just like Kodak, which insisted on film photography in the past, took the technological route too strictly and was eventually eliminated by the digital wave.

3. Self growth requires a tolerance rate.

Being strict with oneself is a good thing, but not giving oneself room to make mistakes can actually lead to a cycle of anxiety. Neuroscience research shows that moderate stress is necessary to stimulate optimal performance.

2. Three wise rules to leave room

1. It's enough not to say anything.

When negotiating, don't say "must" or "absolute", use "suggestion" or "possibility" instead. Experiments have shown that the expression method that preserves negotiation space has a 23% higher success rate.

2. Leave a way out when not doing things

Set exit clauses in business cooperation, and reserve personal space for emotional relationships. Those who know how to set stop loss points are often able to recover faster from setbacks.

3. Keep good thoughts and emotions in mind.

When breaking up, do not use harsh language towards each other, and when competing, do not rush to kill them all. Neuroscience has confirmed that maintaining goodwill can lower levels of stress hormones.

3. How to grasp the balance of leaving room?

1. Key principles cannot be compromised

When it comes to bottom line issues, they must be adhered to, such as legal red lines and ethical standards. This is not stubbornness, but the selective persistence of wisdom.

2. Flexibly handle minor issues that are not related to core interests, and demonstrate flexibility. Just like how bamboo bends in the wind but never stops, this resilience is the key to longevity.

3. Reserve buffer time space

Important decision to give oneself a 24-hour cooling off period and make significant investments to retain emergency funds. This kind of contingency thinking can avoid many passive situations.

Fourthly, there is a turning point in life hidden in the blank space

Traditional Chinese painting emphasizes the principle of "counting white as black", where the blank spaces are actually the essence of the artistic conception. Life is the same, seemingly giving way may hide opportunities for twists and turns. Just like Li Ka shing's business philosophy: never eat the last penny of profit. In this era full of variables, absolute certainty is actually the biggest risk. Learning to find a balance between persistence and compromise is the true wisdom of life. Remember, if the bow is pulled too full, it can easily break, leaving room for you to turn around calmly.