Borderline personality traits of female students, control desire

Female patients with borderline personality disorder often exhibit strong emotional fluctuations and unstable interpersonal relationships, and a desire for control may appear as part of their symptoms. This type of behavior usually stems from fear of abandonment, confusion in self-identity, and difficulty regulating emotions, manifested in excessive dependence on intimate relationships, extreme evaluations of others, and frequent testing of others' loyalty. Women with borderline personality disorder may gain a sense of security in intimate relationships through extreme means, such as requiring their partners to report their whereabouts at all times, restricting their social activities, and repeatedly questioning the authenticity of their relationship. This type of behavior is often accompanied by intense emotional reactions, and when it is perceived that the relationship may break down, attempts to control the situation may be made through self harm or threats. Their controlling behavior is contradictory, as they both crave intimacy and fear being swallowed up, leading to repeated push-pull patterns in the relationship. In rare cases, the desire for control may manifest in more subtle forms, such as triggering others' guilt through self deprecation or deliberately creating crises to gain attention. Some patients may develop an overproduction control mode, morally kidnapping others through self sacrifice. These behaviors often involve childhood traumatic experiences, especially a history of emotional neglect or abuse, leading them to equate control with the acquisition of a sense of security.

For controlling behavior in women with borderline personality disorder, those around them should set clear boundaries while maintaining emotional support to avoid falling into the role of a savior. Professional treatment should be combined with dialectical behavioral therapy to improve emotional regulation ability, reduce impulsive behavior through mindfulness training, and gradually rebuild healthy attachment patterns. Nonviolent communication skills can be used in daily interactions to confirm emotional needs but not tolerate unreasonable demands. If necessary, seek a psychologist to develop a systematic intervention plan.