Borderline personality says no love, no love

Patients with borderline personality disorder may indeed exhibit sudden termination of intimate relationships, which is related to core symptoms such as emotional instability and self-identity confusion. Borderline personality disorder is a mental disorder characterized by unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, and emotions, mainly manifested as fear of abandonment, impulsive behavior, intense emotional fluctuations, and a tendency towards self harm. Patients with borderline personality disorder often exhibit a rapid transition between extreme idealization and belittling in intimate relationships. When a partner is unable to meet their emotional needs, they may voluntarily cut off the relationship due to fear of being abandoned, or test their loyalty through repeated breakups. This sudden lack of love is often accompanied by strong anger or depression, and even threatening behaviors such as self harm, which is essentially a contradictory expression of both desire and fear for intimate relationships. Some patients may regret their breakup behavior after their emotions have calmed down, attempting to salvage the relationship and forming a push-pull cycle. This is related to abnormal function of the prefrontal cortex, which leads to impaired emotional regulation ability. In rare cases, patients may acquire emotional management skills and reduce extreme behaviors in relationships through long-term treatment, but completely changing attachment patterns requires years of professional psychological intervention. If people around you have similar situations, it is recommended to avoid blaming or overly accommodating them, and encourage them to receive professional treatment such as dialectical behavior therapy. Maintain emotional stability, set clear boundaries, and seek help from a psychological counselor if necessary. Clearly expressing needs rather than speculating in intimate relationships reduces conflicts caused by misunderstandings. Regular sleep patterns and mindfulness exercises can help both parties alleviate emotional stress.