Behind every bad habit of children, there are actually their unmet needs

Do children always like to throw toys everywhere? Can't sit still for three minutes while doing homework? These 'bad habits' that cause headaches for parents may all be children expressing their needs in special ways. Psychologists have found that behind every behavioral problem lies a child's inner thoughts that they want to express but cannot.

1. Littering toys is not intentional disturbance

1. It may be a manifestation of spatial sensitivity

2-4 year old children will explore spatial relationships by throwing things, which is a necessary stage for brain development. Forcefully stopping it will actually prolong this period.

2. Lack of storage guidance

Children are not unwilling to collect, but do not know how to collect. Provide clearly categorized storage boxes and demonstrate how to 'send toys home'.

3. Attention grabbing signals

When parents are always playing with their phones, children may intentionally create chaos to gain attention. Ensuring 30 minutes of high-quality companionship every day can reduce this behavior.

2. Being unable to sit still does not necessarily indicate ADHD

1. Unsatisfied exercise needs

Preschool children need 3 hours of exercise per day. If there is insufficient daytime activity, doing homework will be like "installing a motor".

2. Task difficulty mismatch

When homework exceeds the child's ability range, the body will instinctively avoid it. Breaking down tasks into 15 minute small goals makes it easier to complete.

3. Symptoms of sensory dysregulation

Frequent leg shaking and pen biting may be due to delayed vestibular development. Sports such as skipping rope and hitting the ball can effectively improve.

3. There are deep-seated reasons behind picky eating

1. Symptoms of oral sensitivity

Refusing certain textured foods may be due to oral tactile sensitivity. Gradually introduce different flavors of food, gradually transitioning from soft to hard.

2. The "don't want period" of self-awareness after the age of 2 is a sign of psychological development. Provide 2-3 healthy options for children to decide how much to eat on their own.

3. Digestive capacity issues

Long term loss of appetite may be due to spleen and stomach weakness. Observing tongue coating and bowel movements is more important than forcing eating.

4. How to deal with these behaviors correctly

1. Connect first and then correct

When a child is emotionally agitated, a hug is more useful than preaching. Wait until the emotions have calmed down before discussing behavioral issues.

2. Use games to resolve conflicts

Turn tidying up toys into a game of "sending small animals home", and children's cooperation will be greatly improved.

3. Establish a regular schedule

Fixed meal and sleep times can give children a sense of security and reduce the need to express their needs through problematic behavior. Remember, there is no such thing as a 'bad child', only needs that are not understood. When a child has behavioral problems, why not squat down and ask yourself: What is he really trying to tell me? Replacing blame with understanding will make parenting easier and easier.