be vigilant! There are three types of behaviors between couples, and their relationship may have broken down

When two people enter into marriage from passionate love, the initial sweetness is often worn away by the daily necessities of life. Some changes are silent, but like termites gnawing on houses, they slowly erode the foundation of emotions. Today we will talk about the emotional risks that are easily overlooked Machine signal.

1. The communication mode has undergone qualitative changes

1. The duration of the conversation has drastically decreased [SEP]. From daily Congee on the phone to only perfunctory responses of "um" and "oh", from sharing details of life to only accounting for necessary matters. A study found that emotionally stable couples have an average of 57 minutes of deep communication per day, and when this time is reduced to less than 15 minutes, the relationship warning is already sounded.

2. The way of avoiding conflicts is abnormal.

It's either a volcanic eruption like argument or a cold war like an Arctic glacier. A healthy relationship requires constructive arguments, but many couples either avoid all conflicts or use hurtful language to attack each other. For example, saying 'you always' on the lips, or using' knocking out the door 'as a substitute for communication.

3. Losing common topics

When you only have children and bills to chat with, when the other person talks about work fun, you only want to swipe your phone, when watching TV together but staring at different screens - all of these are reminders that you are becoming "roommates".

2. Body language exposure and psychological distance

1. Intimacy Close contact significantly reduced [SEP], the number of hugs increased from multiple per day to only a few per month, no longer holding hands naturally when crossing the street, and being able to lie down with another person in between when sleeping. The body is the most honest barometer, when it comes to intimacy When the level of close contact decreases to less than 30% of the pre marital level, caution is needed.

2. Micro expressions and eye changes

When the other person speaks, you instinctively furrow your brow, and when your partner comes home, you no longer look up to greet them. These subtle expressions are more authentic than language. A study tracking and filming conversations between couples found that couples who experience emotional breakdowns tend to have an average of 7 disgusted micro expressions every 10 minutes.

3. Excessive expansion of personal space

Suddenly requires sleeping in separate rooms, locking the bathroom, and frequently changing phone passwords. When private territory is excessively protected, it often means the construction of psychological defenses.

3. Divergence in future planning

1. Manifestation of differences in financial views [SEP]: Each expense is disputed, bonus income is concealed, and secret accounts are opened separately. Financial conflicts account for as much as 37% of divorce reasons, which is 12 percentage points higher than infidelity. When you start to focus on 'yours' and' mine 'instead of' ours', the problem becomes apparent.

2. Life goals are completely different.

You want to retire early and travel around the world, but you want to start a business and work hard for another ten years; You hope your child grows up happily, and they are persistent in competing for prestigious schools. These fundamental differences are like two trains traveling backwards, eventually going further and further.

3. Avoiding Long Term Promises

When discussing major decisions such as buying a house or having children, one often uses the excuse of "let's talk". When the other person mentions their wedding anniversary, you only find it troublesome. These evasive attitudes are more hurtful than directly refusing. If you observe multiple warning signs in a relationship, don't panic, but face them squarely. The repair of relationships is like taking care of sick plants, requiring timely diagnosis of the cause and adjustment of the way of getting along. You can start by having 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversations every day to relearn listening and expression. Remember, being aware of the problem is the first step towards fixing it, and being willing to face the problem itself is proof of love.