Be careful of one of the three red lights in marriage

When two people enter into marriage from passionate love, the initial sweetness may be slowly diluted by daily necessities. Some changes are silent, but like cookie crumbs hidden in the crevices of the sofa, accumulating too much will always make you feel uneasy. Today, let's not talk about those earth shattering contradictions, but about the small details that are easily overlooked but worth being wary of.

1. The conversation changes from "us" to "you and me"

1. The change in language mode

When we were in love, we always talked about "where are we going this weekend", but now we only talk about "your mom called again" and "can you stop throwing your smelly socks around". This subtle change in pronouns reflects a widening psychological distance.

2. Separation of Decision making Power

Previously, when buying a movie ticket, one had to discuss what type to watch, but now it's up to each individual to make decisions on major purchases. When joint decision-making becomes unilateral notification, it indicates that both parties are tacitly withdrawing from each other's social circle.

2. Physical contact becomes luxury

1. Daily intimacy The decrease in secret behavior [SEP]: Good morning kisses stay in memories from six months ago, and the hands naturally held when crossing the street are now inserted into their respective pockets. Research has found that there is no sexual relationship between spouses The physical contact of behavior is the most honest barometer of relationship temperature.

2. Resist reparative contact

After an argument, I would rather brush my phone back to back than give a hug from the stairs. The body perceives emotional detachment earlier than the brain, and the deliberate physical distance is actually an externalization of the psychological defense line.

3. There is no mutual plan in the future

1. Differences in short-term planning

One wants to enroll in a yoga class and the other wants to buy a game console, which is normal. However, when discussing the travel plan for next year, one said that he wanted to backpack around Xizang alone, and the other planned to go back to his hometown to accompany his parents. This plan of splitting up is worth watching out for.

2. The disappearance of long-term goals

The previously discussed plans for buying a house and parenting schedule have now become "we'll talk about it later". More obviously, career development choices completely disregard the other party, as if returning to the state of making decisions when single. Marriage is like a small business partnership that requires regular inventory checks. These signals are not judgments, but reminders to replenish our inventory. Why don't you turn off the TV tonight, cook two cups of hot cocoa, and talk about those forgotten 'us' again.