As you reach middle age, this "three no's" principle allows you to live more transparently

Middle age is like a phone suddenly switched to vibration mode - even though the battery is still 50%, it always feels like it will automatically shut down the next second. Those heroic young people who stayed up late to watch TV dramas have now become conscious of soaking goji berries in a thermos. But don't rush to press the mute button on life. By mastering a few simple principles, even middle-aged people can live their lives into shining moments.

1. Do not compete with your body

1. Refuse to adopt a hard to carry lifestyle

Back then, when climbing the sixth floor without breathing, my knees now come with background sound effects when descending stairs. The warning signals emitted by the body are more accurate than the weather forecast, such as joint pain on rainy days and sudden heartbeats from staying up late. Instead of waiting for component warnings before sending for repairs, it's better to do regular maintenance. Stretching for 20 minutes a day is more effective than a three hour workout, and a slightly sweaty state is more suitable for the exercise rhythm of middle-aged people than sweating profusely.

2. Rebuilding the Dietary Scale

Metabolic rate is like riding on a slide in an era where the pleasure of eating fried chicken with beer comes at double the cost. You don't have to eat a rabbit, but you can try to turn Braised pork belly from a weekly must order into a monthly reward. The digestive system is no longer as tolerant as it was when I was young, and late night spicy hotpot may be exchanged for a whole night of stomach symphony.

2. Don't be obsessed with emotions

1. Install a filter for stress

There is a sandwich layer between old and small, and troubles are like automatic app notifications. Try to categorize bad things: take immediate action for those that can be solved, and package and archive those that are temporarily unsolvable. The emotional management of middle-aged people is not about forcing positive energy, but about learning to change 'I'm done' to 'sleep first'.

2. Cultivate insensitivity

Colleagues' gossip, neighbors' comparisons, relatives' soul questioning, these noises that used to make you insomnia can now be completely processed as background sounds. The most luxurious consumption in middle age is not designer bags, but the carefree attitude of 'what's my business'. Remember, other people's evaluations are just a projection of their inner selves.

3. Don't pay for face

1. Simplify social energy

The liveliness of calling each other brothers at a table often cannot compare to the richness of being alone in a study. Start calculating the energy cost of socializing: push the consumption type dinner party as much as possible, and arrange the nourishing type small gatherings proactively. The number of people in the address book is not important, those who can make phone calls at 3am are precious.

2. Redefine Success Studies

While it is good for a child to get into a prestigious school, teaching them how to make a delicious bowl of tomato scrambled eggs is also an achievement. There is no need to live as parents of other people's children. The biggest soberness for middle-aged people is to understand that they are thieves who steal happiness, and their own pace is the best BGM. Middle age is not the starting point of a downhill road, but an opportunity to switch driving modes. Many things that I cared about when I was young can now be easily deleted by pressing the delete button; The once overlooked small moments have become the highlight of every day. Living transparently has nothing to do with age, the key is to shift attention from "how others see it" to "how you live it yourself". In addition to goji berries, you can also add some more in the thermos.