A sober woman's perspective on emotions: preferring solitude over compromise

While scrolling through my phone late at night, I was suddenly bombarded by my best friend's voice: 'He actually said I'm getting older and should compromise...' The background sound was mixed with the sound of blowing my nose. This is already the third time this month that I have received such a crying complaint, making me roll my eyes at the ceiling. Contemporary independent women should have understood long ago that emotions are not like expired yogurt in supermarkets, and those who are labeled as "half price for the second item" must put together a purchase and take it away.

1. The feeling of settling down consumes more energy than loneliness

1. Emotional exhaustion is bottomless pit

Every day we barely get along with each other is an advance of emotional value. To endure the other person's socks being thrown around is considered casual, but forgetting the anniversary is called pragmatic. This chronic consumption is like a phone never fully charging its battery, eventually causing even a short video to freeze.

2. Self cognitive blurring

In the self brainwashing of "he is actually a good person", it is gradually unclear whether it is because they are reluctant to part with this relationship or afraid of restarting their single status. Just like wearing shoes that don't fit your feet, over time you forget the feeling of walking normally.

2. High quality solitude is an invisible appreciation period

1. Freedom in time management

You don't have to cooperate with the other person to watch the game on the night, you can read half a professional book; Save time on dating and commuting, enough to get a barista certification. Solitary time is the true compound interest investment, and those who say 'women depreciate after thirty' probably haven't calculated the growth exchange rate converted from time.

2. Social Energy Reserve Station

When you don't have to spend your energy on trivial arguments, you can manage high-quality social activities more clearly. Weekend flower arrangement classes may encounter business partners, casual conversations at the gym may gain entrepreneurial inspiration, and the energy accumulated during solitude will flow towards more worthwhile areas.

3. Three major benchmarks for sober mate selection

1. Basic item: Emotional stability

The test standard is not sweet words during the honeymoon period, but the first reaction of the person when encountering traffic jams or food delivery spills. People who can handle negative emotions properly are capable of managing long-term relationships.

2. Bonus item: growth synchronization rate

Observe whether there are learning apps on his mobile phone in addition to games, and whether he repeatedly roast about colleagues or discusses new trends in the industry when chatting. Just like two phones with different systems, no matter how much you like them, you can't share the application ecosystem.

3. Rejected item: Respect the bottom line

Those comments like "My mom said we should skip the dowry" and "Girls, don't try too hard" are essentially testing your principle boundaries. Discounted treatment before marriage will only turn into a big sale after marriage.

Rather than being a constantly compromising second party in a compromising relationship, it's better to be the first party in one's own life. True clarity is understanding that loneliness is only a temporary state, and wrong choices can rewrite the entire script of life. When you can turn solitude into poetry, the one who deserves you dares to knock on the door.