A person's maturity begins with knowing how to guard against friends

Have you ever noticed that when you were a child, you could make friends without reservation, but as you grew up, you began to learn how to "keep a hand"? This is not about becoming indifferent, but about the brain reminding you that mature interpersonal relationships require wisdom. Why do friends also need to be 'guarded'?

1. Human nature cannot withstand the test

psychological research has found that people are prone to cognitive biases in the face of interests. What you think of as a "buddy" may make unexpected choices at critical moments.

2. Relationships will naturally change

After the age of 25, a person's social circle changes by 50% every 7 years. Friends who used to talk about everything may gradually become 'friends who like'.

3. Excessive trust=self consumption

Giving time, money, and secrets to friends without reservation may actually make them feel "justified".

2. How to cleverly "prevent friends"?

1. Small things depend on character, big things test sincerity

First observe how the other party handles small promises (such as whether the meal appointment is on time).

Then decide whether to entrust important matters (such as borrowing money or sharing personal information).

2. Set up "relationship boundaries"

to clarify which topics can be discussed (work, hobbies).

What to be cautious about (family conflicts, income details).

3. Retain the "social withdrawal right"

when discovering that friends often When it comes to boundaries, one should learn to politely refuse unreasonable requests.

Gradually reduce the frequency of individual meetings.

3. Preventing Friends ≠ No Friends

1. True friendship can withstand "blank space"

Good relationships do not require 24-hour binding, and occasional periods of silence can actually test the resilience of friendship.

2. The tacit understanding of adults: see through without saying through

Smart people understand:

Do not ask the other person for things they don't want to say.

Do not expose harmless vanity.

3. Screening is more important than transformation.

Instead of struggling to change an unsuitable friend, it's better to leave time for someone who is more on the same frequency. Maturity is not about being skeptical of the world, but about understanding that even the best relationships require wise management.