A man who hasn't been in touch for a long time is looking for you? Don't get too excited too early, the reason is very practical!

Suddenly, a message popped up on the phone, and the long dormant avatar flashed. Do you know any seniors from university clubs? Customers that the previous company has dealt with? Or a 'friend' whom we haven't talked about since exchanging WeChat at a gathering? Don't rush your heart to beat faster for now, this kind of "zombie contact" suddenly resurrects, and there may be a script behind it that you can't imagine.

1. Real motivation for sudden contact

1. Temporary supply during emotional window period

When the late night dialog box pops up with "Are you there", it may just be that the other party's emotional radar is scanning for potential development objects. The "suspension bridge effect" in psychology shows that people are more likely to develop a favorable impression of suddenly appearing old acquaintances when they are lonely, but this is often unrelated to sincerity.

2. Precise Harvesting of Social Currency

Search through your contact list and find that you are the most likely person to help him forward the voting link, or your circle of friends can tell that you are engaged in the industry he needs. Adult socialization is sometimes like opening a blind box, he is just testing which box can produce the desired prize.

II. Identification kit The three signals of the road

1. Opening statement filled with time difference

"Long time no see" followed by "Most The standardized language of "How are you doing recently" is very similar to a group posting template. People who really care about you will first share details of your recent situation, such as "seeing that you went on a trip to Qinghai last month".

2. Quick topic guidance needs

Start asking "Is your company hiring" or "I heard that you know a big shot in a certain industry" after no more than three sentences of conversation, which exposes the purpose of prioritizing social efficiency.

3. Chatting rhythm fluctuates between hot and cold

Today, we chatted passionately until early morning, and tomorrow we will disappear for three days before replying. This roller coaster style interaction often means that you are just an alternative among his multiple options.

III. Smart People's Response Strategies

1. Set a response buffer zone

Do not create a sense of anticipation in seconds, use "just saw the message" as the opening line. The response interval can be quietly extended to observe whether the other party is worth the continuous investment of time cost.

2. Establish a topic firewall

When the conversation moves towards the area of "can I help you?", you can use "I may need to ask other colleagues about this" as a buffer. Maintain dignity while guarding boundaries, avoiding becoming a free resource provider.

3. Make good use of value assessment method

After each conversation, do you have a simple review: Does the emotional support or information resources he provides match the amount of energy you invest? The relationship of unilateral output is like a leaking cup, never fully filled. In an era where there are 2000 friends lying in the address book, a sudden greeting may be a surprise or a test question. Maintaining clear social judgment is the key to making every conversation nourishing rather than consuming. Next time that long lost name lights up, remember to load the anti spoofing mode on your brain for three seconds first.