A loving couple becoming strangers? 3 signals to teach you timely stop loss

That day at the coffee shop, I ran into my college classmate Xiaolin. She stared at the milk foam on the rim of her cup and suddenly said, "The conversation with my husband now is even more monotonous than the beep of an ATM machine. This sentence is like a thorn, gently piercing into the hearts of many people. Marriage, from sweet to dull, is often not a sudden volcanic eruption, but rather an unconscious process like boiling a frog in warm water.

1. The thermometer for physical contact has malfunctioned [SEP]. The safe distance to maintain while watching TV shows on the sofa can accommodate two more yoga mats. Research has found that non sexual daily physical contact between partners is a barometer of relationship health.

2. Eye contact begins to dodge

Always staring at the phone screen instead of the other person's eyes when speaking, even during arguments, they are too lazy to look at each other. When the four eyes become luxurious, the curtains of the window of the soul are quietly drawn.

3. Odor Memory Failure

Suddenly realizing that they cannot remember the scent of the other person's shampoo, or that they always use the wrong towel. The sense of smell awakens the senses The most primitive way of intimacy is when the body's breath becomes unfamiliar, and the brain is already redefining the boundaries of relationships.

2. The dialogue system displays garbled characters

1. The topic inventory is urgent [SEP]. Apart from "Have you paid the water and electricity bills?" and "Have you checked your child's homework?", no new topics can be dug up. There are more emojis than text in chat records, and fighting pictures have become the main way of communication. This is not a peaceful passage of time, but a warning of insufficient balance in the emotional account.

2. Listening mode turned off

When the other person speaks, their fingers keep tapping on the keyboard, and the response is only a mechanical sound of "um" and "oh". When the desire to confide encounters a perfunctory receiver, the communication cable is quietly being cut off.

3. The future tense disappears

Time anchors such as "we will be next year" and "after retirement" no longer appear in conversations. When two people stop weaving the future together, the present becomes the countdown to breaking up.

3. Emotion Radar Stop Scanning

1. Don't Share Happiness

The good news of promotion and salary increase is the first to tell your best friend instead of your spouse. When encountering funny jokes, first post them on your Moments instead of turning around to share. When joy no longer flows instinctively towards the other party, the emotional diversion project has been completed.

2. Pain does not resonate

When I have a cold and fever, I order takeout and take medicine by myself, and work overtime late at night to face the dark living room at home. When the most precious "patient Congee special right" of marriage was canceled, it actually explained the problem more than the divorce certificate.

3. Anger doesn't explode Being too lazy to argue is the most dangerous signal. When the other party makes a mistake, you choose to remain silent instead of getting angry, not because your cultivation has improved, but because the stop loss mechanism has been activated. Marriage is like starting a company in partnership, where emotions are the registered capital and daily operations require continuous investment from both parties. If all three signals are met, perhaps we should consider whether to undergo timely transformation or bankruptcy liquidation. Anyway, don't rush to cancel your account when you discover a problem. Some systems may crash and only require a deep antivirus scan to restart.