5 signs of the end of a couple's fate, if you have 3 of them, don't force yourself

Have you noticed that the expired yogurt box in the fridge is fresher than your conversation? When two people have nothing to talk about and are too lazy to even start a remote control battle, this relationship may be in a "silent mode". Don't rush to sentence marriage to death, but some signals are indeed as alarming as a phone with only 1% battery left.

1. Dialogue becomes a single player game

1. Language system automatically downgrades

from "That proposal for today's meeting..." to "Hmm", "Oh", "Whatever", the number of words exchanged is even shorter than the 140 word limit on Weibo. Research has found that when long-term partners engage in effective conversations for less than 15 minutes per day, emotional connections enter a dormant state.

2. Emojis are richer than real people's emojis

WeChat chat records are all default system emojis, even when arguing, they are too lazy to vent their anger. When you would rather watch short videos than look into each other's eyes, this kind of cold violence in the digital age is more hurtful than falling out of the door.

2. Living together like roommates

1. Physical distance creates psychological distance

Two yoga mats can be placed in the middle of the double bed, and the shower time is automatically staggered by two hours. The frequency of physical contact is so low that even smart wristbands cannot detect changes in heart rate, and this' sterile interaction 'makes it even too lazy to secrete dopamine.

2. Parallel and non intersecting life trajectories

He plays games, you watch dramas, and weekend activities are like two time zones. When mutual friends ask about their current situation, they need to be like new The deliberate maintenance of surface harmony, as seen in the press conference where the tone was adjusted in advance, actually exposed deep cracks.

3. Automatic blocking of the other party in future plans

1. Career planning becomes a single player game

When considering opportunities for overseas assignments, there is no need to negotiate at all, and the financial account has already prepared a plan for splitting. Psychology calls this phenomenon "emotional pre departure", and the brain is already making sand table simulations for single life.

2. Festivals become routine

Anniversary gifts are chocolates held at convenience stores, and birthday wishes are reminded by Alipay. When special days become more formulaic than work meetings, the lack of ceremony will accelerate the overdraft of emotional accounts.

4. Negative emotions become the main theme

1. Being picky has become a conditioned reflex

What used to be cute was shouting, now it's like an electric drill on a construction site. This' negative attribution bias' can make you interpret your partner's normal behavior as offensive, like putting a malicious filter on all behavior.

2. Memories with built-in gray filter

Looking through honeymoon photos, I only feel silly and sweet at that time, and the beautiful memories we shared suddenly collapsed together. Memory reconstruction is a dangerous signal of deteriorating relationships, indicating that the subconscious is already rewriting history.

Fifth, third-party intervention becomes reasonable

1. The confidant quietly transfers

It is better to tell the fitness coach than to talk to the person next to you, this kind of "emotional outsourcing" is equivalent to opening a new chapter in marriage. Note that this is not about infidelity, but about the transfer of emotional support systems.

2. Family and friends become referees

The content of the argument changed from "us" to "your mother said", and all the uncles and aunts became off court guides. When marriage becomes a multi-party negotiation, it essentially acknowledges that the two cannot solve problems independently. If these scenes make your back feel cold, don't rush to pack your luggage yet. All long-term relationships will experience a dry season, just like plants need to change pots regularly. Try to create new shared experiences, such as learning diving or doing pottery together, to activate numb senses in unfamiliar environments. It's really no good. Professional emotional consultation is more effective than roast from a girlfriend. Remember, divorce is the final stop loss key, not a shortcut to avoid problems.