Why do men refuse to divorce after infidelity? These three reasons are too realistic

When a marriage is betrayed, many people find a strange phenomenon: even though he is cheating, it is often his wife who initiates the divorce. Those men who sink into extramarital affairs are like acrobats on two boats at the same time, unwilling to let go of the new Happy hands, yet unwilling to let go of the ropes of old love. Behind this contradiction lies a truth that even they themselves dare not face directly.

1. The cost of divorce far exceeds imagination

1. The economic cost is unbearable

from the common Dividing property into child support and divorce is like opening a Pandora's box filled with bills. Many men find that the economic cost of maintaining a marriage may be much lower than regularly paying alimony after divorce, especially when the couple has a joint venture or complex property relationship.

2. Social relationships are facing restructuring

Divorce is not only a matter for two people, but also involves the social networks of two families. Some professional men are particularly concerned that divorce will affect their workplace image, such as in industries that require a stable and stable image. Standing in line in the circle of mutual friends and discussing with relatives and elders can all become invisible pressure.

2. Emotional dependence is deeper than expected

1. Habits are more stubborn than love

Common living habits formed over the past decade may be more intense than excitement Love is harder to let go of. From the squeezing method of toothpaste to the selection of TV programs, the comfort zone constructed by these daily details often only shows its weight when faced with loss. Some cheaters admit that their partners are more suitable for dating, while their wives know how to live their lives better.

2. Children are the softest Most fathers understand the impact of divorce on their children. Even if their relationship deteriorates, they still hope to maintain the appearance of a 'complete family'. More realistically, many men are concerned that divorce may weaken the parent-child relationship, especially when custody of the children may belong to the woman.

3. Motivation for infidelity determines behavior patterns

1. Seeking excitement does not mean wanting to change lives

Just like occasionally wanting to eat junk food does not mean giving up on meals, some infidelity behaviors are just a brief escape from a mundane life. These types of men usually keep extramarital affairs within a range that does not affect their marriage, and they only want seasonings instead of changing the main course.

2. Triangular relationships bring abnormal satisfaction

The psychological "Romeo and Juliet effect" also applies in extramarital relationships. When dealing with two relationships at the same time, some people may feel a sense of achievement being contested. This twisted sense of satisfaction often collapses instantly with either party's withdrawal. Marriage is like a plant cultivated by two people together. When pests and diseases are discovered, uprooting may not be the only option. understanding these hidden logics is not to excuse betrayal, but to provide injured people with an additional perspective to examine relationships. Whether choosing to forgive or leave, only by seeing the truth can one make a decision without regret. Give each other a period of calm, perhaps it's better to see through their true inner needs than tearing up their marriage certificate immediately.