She is the most Recently, messages have been getting slower and slower, and I always stare at my phone when we meet. I can't even get interested in my favorite restaurant - these subtle changes are like small burrs hidden in a sweater, not painful but making me restless. The alienation of adults often does not involve earth shattering arguments, but rather lies in the hidden codes of deteriorating relationships within the overlooked folds of life.

1. Body language is more honest than mouth
1. Subtle changes in safety distance
The hand that was originally naturally held when crossing the street suddenly slipped into the pocket, and when sitting side by side, the knees no longer accidentally touched each other, these once unconscious kisses When secret actions disappear, they often come earlier than the phrase 'we are not suitable'. Anthropologists have found that as psychological distance increases, the body will activate defense modes before consciousness.
2. Shelf life of eye contact
Pupil dilation is a physiological reaction that cannot be faked. When her gaze stays on your face for a shorter period of time, her blinking frequency increases, and she even frequently looks towards the exit direction, this may be a subconscious search for an escape route. It is interesting that when people pretend to be focused, they intentionally prolong their gaze time, which in turn exposes unnaturalness.
2. Abnormal circulation of social currency
1. Inflation of sharing desire
Yesterday, the coffee machine in the office broke down, and this small matter was worth sending three voice messages. Today, when praised by the leader, only a "hmm" reply was given. When daily sharing changes from high-definition image quality to mosaic image quality, it is often a warning signal of insufficient emotional account balance.
2. Visitor Records on Moments
The person who used to like every post in seconds, but now you haven't even noticed when you changed your profile picture. The frequency of interaction on social media is like a barometer of relationships, and liking is the cheapest way for contemporary people to care. When this currency stops circulating, the situation may be more severe than imagined.
3. Decrease in return on time investment
1. Delay in synchronization frequency
From "what are you doing" seconds back to a cyclical reply, from a two-hour video call to "say it another day when you're busy". Where contemporary people invest their time, their hearts are there. When their time account shows' insufficient balance 'to you, it may be that they are recharging in other relationships.
2. Prioritization reset of the schedule
She, who was able to take leave and see a doctor for you three months ago, now has to make an appointment two weeks in advance even for weekend meals. The adult world has not suddenly disappeared, only a deliberate downgrade. When you keep moving back on her schedule, you may only be a few official notifications away from being eliminated.
IV. The imbalance between supply and demand of emotional value
1. The offline state of empathy
She once heard you complain about her boss's indignation and agreement, but now she has no reaction to your promotion and salary increase. Psychologists believe that when a person stops responding physiologically to their partner's emotional fluctuations (such as increased heart rate or temperature changes), it often indicates a break in emotional connection.
2. Grammar Error in Future Tense
"Next Spring Let's go to Hokkaido "has become" we'll talk later ", and all long-term plans that include" us "automatically switch to vague expressions. Linguists have found that when relationships deteriorate, people unconsciously reduce the use of future tenses because their subconscious has already rejected common imagination.
The fading of relationships is like a sweater pilling, starting with just a few insignificant threads. When you notice these details, you may want to set your phone to airplane mode and take a walk with her without any interference. Some distances need to be crossed actively, and some silence needs to be bravely broken, after all, winter is the most suitable time to measure sincerity with body temperature.
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