When these three signs of marriage appear, they are more dangerous than arguments

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly received a message from my best friend: 'He actually blocked me...' Upon closer inquiry, I realized that this couple, who had been married for five years, had not had a serious conversation for three months, and their WeChat chat records were filled with 'hmm' and 'transfer reminders'. Some marital rifts are never earth shattering arguments, but quietly deteriorate like boiling a frog in warm water.

1. Silence becomes the main melody of daily communication

1. Avoidant dialogue mode

When "what did you eat today" becomes the only opening line, and the other person always nods at their phone when speaking, this kind of false communication is even more terrifying than a cold war. Research has found that couples who avoid deep communication for a long time, such as The satisfaction with confidential relationships will decrease at a rate of 7% per year.

2. Emotional isolation phenomenon

Overtime until late at night without anyone asking, buying medicine for colds and fevers on one's own, this "each passing their own" state lasts for more than two weeks, and one should be vigilant. A healthy marriage should be like an interwoven neural network that can sense each other's emotional fluctuations even when they are busy.

2. Physical contact drops to freezing point

1. Intimate The number of hugs has sharply decreased from several times a day to just a few times a month, and there is a habit of sleeping back-to-back. These signals are more worth paying attention to than sleeping in the bedroom. Skin contact can stimulate the secretion of oxytocin, which is an important physiological mechanism for maintaining emotions.

2. Loss of eye contact

Watching short videos while eating and having eye movements during conversations can accelerate emotional distance. When was the last time you stared seriously into the other person's eyes for more than 3 seconds?

3. Automatic blocking of the other party in future planning

1. Financial departments acting independently

Suddenly starting to split accounts for consumption, major expenditures are no longer discussed, and this economic isolation is often a precursor to emotional detachment. The transaction data of a joint account can to some extent better reflect the relationship than romantic words Confidentiality level.

2. Complete Separation of Social Circles

Weekend activities are never synchronized, and friends no longer see their partners at gatherings. When two people live in parallel time and space, the memory bank of shared experiences will stop saving. If these scenes make you feel familiar, don't rush to sentence the marriage to death. Try turning off the TV tonight, setting your phone to airplane mode, and carefully observing the person who once moved you. Sometimes, the temperature of a cup of hot tea, a gaze without playing with your phone, can restart the tenderness that has been frozen by daily trivialities.