When we first met, he was gentle and considerate like a warm baby, but after a few months, he suddenly turned into a walking refrigerator? Some signals are even more accurate than weather forecasts. Today, let's talk about the danger warnings hidden in the details.

1. Emotions are as unstable as a roller coaster
1. The ups and downs are like thunderstorms
One second, they are still joking, but the next second they suddenly throw something and use foul language. This unpredictable emotional fluctuation is often accompanied by signs of violent tendencies, like a low-pressure system before a storm.
2. Always blaming the outside world
Difficulty in work is caused by colleagues, failure in love is caused by the ex's incompetence, even scolding the delivery driver for half an hour if the food delivery is delayed. People who lack the ability to reflect on themselves will eventually blame you for all their problems.
2. The desire for control is so strong that it can be suffocating
1. intervention in social circles
First, she euphemistically said "that best friend looks unreliable", and later directly banned her from attending class gatherings. A healthy relationship requires breathing space, not living as a conjoined baby.
2. Monitoring movements has become a habit.
requires reporting travel plans at all times, and making phone calls frantically if there is no response within ten minutes. It's not about caring, it's about the possessive desire to treat you as a private property.
3. Poor attitude towards others
1. Shouting and yelling at service personnel
Roll your eyes at the waiter when ordering, and curse the delivery guy for being late. How he treats strangers now may be how he treats you in the future.
2. Mentioning an ex is all about belittling
shifting all the blame for the breakup onto the other party, using labels such as "crazy woman" and "materialistic woman". Breaking up reveals character, be wary of this lack of empathy.
4. Financial problems are in a mess
1. Long term dependence on the elderly is still justified
At the age of 30, he still reached out to his parents for money, but bought the most The new sneakers don't blink. A giant baby without a sense of responsibility may become your other son after marriage.
2. Passionate about speculative borrowing
Investing all their wages in unreliable investment projects, even if their credit cards explode, they still think they can become rich overnight. Living with gamblers is like being tied up and exploding Play dancing.
5. Refuse any effective communication
1. Use cold violence to solve problems
After an argument, it can disappear for half a month, and if the message cannot be read back, it will be used as a punishment. This kind of mental abuse will make people constantly doubt whether they have done something wrong.
2. Always changing the topic
Every time he wants to talk about emotional issues seriously, he uses the excuse of "you overthink". A relationship that refuses deep communication is destined to be a castle in the air. A truly trustworthy person will make you feel respected and treated equally. If this relationship causes frequent self doubt, perhaps you should reassess whether to continue. Remember, timely stop loss is not a failure, but the greatest responsibility to oneself.
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