When a relationship meets a married man, smart women do the same

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, a message suddenly popped up in my best friend group: "He is very good to me, but the name on his marriage certificate is not mine..." I could feel conflicted even through the screen. There is no standard answer to the emotional world of adults, but some choices are like wearing a short skirt in winter - no matter how beautiful, it's easy to catch a cold.

1. Identifying danger signals is more important than being tempted

1. Always working overtime during appointment hours

Movie theaters after 9pm and always "on business trips" on weekends, these time loopholes are more indicative than credit card bills. The person who truly cares about you will be like a warm baby in winter, giving you warmth openly and honestly.

2. Dual personality in mobile phone

WeChat note is "Mr. Wang", call records can be cleared at any time, this spy drama style operation should not appear in emotions. A healthy relationship should be like a transparent glass, filled with plain water that can be seen clearly.

2. Stop loss is the highest level of self-protection

1. Lock emotions in a cage

Deleting contact information is not heartless, just like unplugging a charger when you have a fever. Try taking screenshots and printing chat records, and look back three months later. Those sweet phrases may taste like overnight milk tea.

2. Rebuilding the anchor point of life

Sign up for a baking class to fill the night and go hiking on weekends instead of waiting for his phone call. When your life is like a lively hotpot, you won't worry about the clear soup in other people's bowls.

Thirdly, what is worth waiting for is never someone else's marriage

1. Beware of the "true love trap"

Men who say "they will divorce their wives" are like ourselves who say "we will start losing weight tomorrow". Legal documents are more persuasive than commitment letters, and court judgments are more worth waiting for than love words.

2. Love is not limited edition

A good relationship should be like a down jacket in winter, warm, practical, and able to withstand drying. There is no need to pick defective products in the sample room, new products will always be available at the counter. In the adult world, sometimes letting go is not about giving up, but about giving a bonus to your future self. When you use the energy you spend waiting for messages for fitness and the time you spend searching for location to learn new skills, you will find that planting your own flowers in the empty space in your heart is much more reliable than waiting for others' seeds.