When a man deeply loves but avoids, don't misunderstand these 5 signals

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly received a barrage of messages from my best friend: 'He cares a lot but always avoids me.' The dialogue box also included three cracked emoticons. This kind of 'Schr ö dinger's love' really drives people crazy - they can feel the warmth, but they can't feel the distance. In fact, when men exhibit these contradictory behaviors, they are likely saying "I love you" in their own way, but expressing it a bit awkwardly.

1. Suddenly becoming a "topic terminator"

1. Avoiding deep communication. People who used to have everything to talk about start using "um" and "okay" perfunctorily, and important topics are always cleverly avoided. This is not indifference, it may be that he is rehearsing his lines repeatedly in the inner theater, afraid of saying the wrong thing and damaging the relationship.

2. Changing the topic is like playing Tai Chi. As soon as we talked about future plans, we suddenly started talking about a soccer game, and when we discussed it with our parents, it turned to busy work. This kind of rigid topic jumping often hides the anxiety of 'I'm not ready yet, but I'm afraid you'll be disappointed'.

2. Body language reveals secrets

1. Eye contact changes to "dodge ball". After staring at each other for more than three seconds, panic and look away, but secretly stare when you can't see. This contradictory state is very similar to a high school student who passes notes during class and is stared at by the teacher, naive yet authentic.

2. Keep a safe distance of 20 centimeters when walking side by side, but instinctively protect your shoulders when crossing the road. This physical honesty test is even more accurate than a lie detector.

3. "Abnormal behavior" on social media accounts

1. Weird like time on social media. At 3am, I like my selfie from six months ago, but turn a blind eye to fresh updates during the day. This' time difference interaction 'exposes the traces of repeatedly clicking on your homepage.

2. The chat history shows a "withdrawal trend" dialog box frequently displaying "the other party withdrew a message", which is likely due to the screen being full of sincere messages and being cowardly to delete them. Just like a child who writes all the answer sheets and then erases them all during an exam.

4. "Contradictory Giving"

1. Refusing a date but offering warm weekends. He always says he works overtime, but turns around and orders you brown sugar and ginger tea takeout. This kind of operation of 'people not receiving gifts' is comparable to the contemporary electronic version of' playing with feudal lords through beacon fire '.

2. Holding a grudge, caring and saying "Who cares about your cold", then turning around and throwing the pharmacy link. This kind of arrogant and caring is basically equivalent to a dog carrying its favorite bone to your feet.

5. Start "self isolation"

1. Suddenly addicted to work/games and working overtime until late at night or staying up all night, seemingly ignoring you, but actually using busyness to numb the anxiety of "I am not worthy of her". Just like a child who didn't dare to go home after failing an exam, circling around the playground.

2. Creating a "reasonable distance" and frequently mentioning negative cases such as "friends say long-distance relationships are difficult" and "colleagues get divorced" are actually testing your tolerance for relationships and belong to alternative demands for security. When love wears camouflage clothing, we need to recognize it with our "heart" rather than our "eyes". Next time you encounter these signals, why not give him a step: "You're the closest monster, are you practicing how to love me more?" Sometimes, the tenderness of poking through that layer of window paper is more effective than suspicion in making the Escaping Star take off their armor.