Time waits for no one! These 5 signs indicate that you should cherish the person in front of you

Have you ever had such an experience? When I suddenly saw old photos while scrolling through my phone, my heart skipped a beat - when was the last time I had dinner with my parents? Is the last message in the best friend group still stuck six months ago? Those people who used to stick together every day, I don't know when they became like friends in their social circle.

1. Chat records are becoming more and more like work reports

1. Conversations are reduced to transactional communication

Previously, we could talk on the phone for three hours, but now it has become "okay", "got it", and "busy". The conversation about scheduling a meal is like docking a schedule, even the emojis show a polite and professional demeanor. When there is only necessary information exchange left in a relationship, it's like a plant losing photosynthesis.

2. Share the desire for a cliff like decline

When you see interesting short videos, you no longer @ the other person. If you encounter something bad, you would rather post it on Weibo. In psychology, there is a "shared reality theory" that when the sharing of life details stops, the brain assumes that the relationship is no longer important. Those moments of hesitation are warning signals of fading relationships.

2. The body is more honest than the brain

1. Always checking the time when meeting

Although we have scheduled two hours of afternoon tea, we can't help but glance at our phone clock. Body language cannot deceive people. Frequent tidying up of bags or adjusting sitting posture are subconscious signals of wanting to escape. The standard for high-quality companionship is simple: every minute spent together is worth remembering.

2. Hugging becomes stiff

From natural physical contact in the past, it now feels like completing social etiquette. Anthropologists have found that sincere hugs can increase the synchronization rate of both parties' heartbeats. When hugging becomes a mechanical action, it indicates that emotional connections are loosening.

3. Memory Staying in the Past

1. Chatting always starts with "remember the past"

When the common topic is only memories, it's like using old photos as fuel to keep warm. Relationship psychologists point out that healthy emotions require the continuous creation of new memories. If you are the most There haven't been any new stories worth telling in the past six months, so we should be wary.

2. Not knowing the other person's current situation

unable to say what they are most I'm not sure what TV series I've been following recently, but I'm not sure if they've changed jobs. dear. The temperature of a close relationship is hidden in the specific details of 'how have you been lately'. When the Q&A stops at "okay" or "old style", an iceberg has already begun to form.

4. Sudden increase in tolerance

1. Stop arguing over trivial matters

In the past, I used to get angry because my milk tea didn't add pearls, but now I'm too lazy to argue about principles. This is not about becoming tolerant, but a manifestation of insufficient emotional account balance. Clinical psychology shows that there is often an abnormal period of calm before complete disappointment.

2. Cancel special follow

TA changed avatar but you didn't notice, and when you posted a message, you swiped it but didn't like it. In the era of social media, attention is the most precious currency. When the small bell of 'special concern' was cancelled, the door to my heart quietly locked.

5. Start calculating gains and losses

1. Silently write down the list of expenses

The brain automatically generates small ledgers such as "I invited three meals" and "TA forgot my birthday". Once a relationship enters accounting mode, it's like pouring sulfuric acid on a flower. True intimacy is not a transaction, but a willingly "confused account".

2. More comparative questions

"Why do other people have boyfriends Look at so and so's best friend Comparison is a chronic poison for close relationships, and every example sentence of 'someone else's home' is deducting points from the current relationship.

Don't panic when you find these signals, winter is a good time to repair relationships. On weekends, cooking hot red wine and inviting old friends to gather around the stove, sending voice messages to parents saying "I suddenly miss you", the warmth of the relationship often lies in just one thought. Don't wait until those unspoken misses turn into regrets before expressing them.