These chatting habits of men are really unbearable for girls

Have you ever encountered such a situation? Although we were chatting happily, the other person suddenly said something that made you nod instantly, wishing you could end the conversation immediately. In fact, many boys are not even aware that some seemingly harmless chat habits are seen as "social minefields" by girls.

1. Treating household registration check as a chat

1. Serial questioning like interrogation

Just adding WeChat and immediately asking "how old are you," "where do you live," and "how much salary are you?" This kind of opening line will immediately put girls in a defensive state. Effective communication requires natural preparation, rather than turning chat boxes into personal information registration forms.

2. Ignoring feedback from the other party

When a girl has already responded perfunctorily with "hmm" or "oh", she continues to ask questions on her own. Social experts all know how to observe the pace of the other person's response. When there is a clear cooling signal in the topic, it is wise to switch or end the conversation in a timely manner.

2. Using arguments as humor

1. Habitually denying the other person

When a girl says she likes a certain movie, she immediately refutes it by saying "this movie is terrible"; Share dressing photos and insist on commenting 'pants color doesn't match'. The difference between constructive discussion and deliberate dissent lies in whether one respects the other's aesthetic preferences.

2. inappropriate Joke

When a girl is seriously discussing workplace difficulties, she suddenly says, "If you get married, you don't have to work anymore. Humor needs to be balanced, and when the other person shows their vulnerability, what is most needed is empathy rather than cleverness.

3. Make perfunctory behavior the norm

1. Universal Emoji Trick Learning

No matter how important something the other person shares, always reply with the same panda head emoji. Occasional use is to regulate the atmosphere, and long-term perfunctory behavior can make people feel undervalued. At least provide corresponding responses for specific content, even if it's just a simple "sounds great".

2. Always talking about oneself

When girls talk about the hard work of overtime, they immediately respond with "I worked overtime until later yesterday". Turning every conversation into a personal talk show can appear very self-centered. Good conversations are like table tennis, they come and go to last.

4. Treat offense as straightforward

1. Evaluate appearance casually

Ask "How heavy are you?" or "Are your photos too photoshopped?" No matter how close or intimate a relationship is, it requires a sense of boundaries. Sensitive topics such as weight and age should be discussed when the other party initiates them.

2. Overly care about personal matters Life

"How many boyfriends have you talked to?" "Why haven't you gotten married yet?" These types of questions can easily make girls feel offended. Instead of digging into secrets, it's better to talk about safe topics such as interests and hobbies.

Actually, improving the way we chat is not difficult, the key is to transform "what I want to say" into "what the other person wants to hear. Observe the girl's response attitude more often. When the other party starts to actively expand the topic, it means you have found the right communication frequency. Good conversations can make each other feel comfortable and at ease, which is the secret to long-term relationships.