The truth that emotional experts dare not say: these types of girls are most likely to attract scumbags

Have you ever noticed that there are always some girls around you who seem to have a 'scumbag constitution', despite having excellent conditions, but frequently encounter inappropriate people? The sweet group photos shared on social media quickly turned into late night emo essays within a few months. Behind the repeated plot, there is actually a personality code that is easily overlooked.

1. Overgiving and pleasing personality

1. Treating giving as a bargaining chip for love

Habitual behaviors such as grabbing the bill, delivering medicine when sick, and staying up late to chat may appear considerate on the surface, but in reality, they may form a distorted emotional balance. When giving becomes the only way to gain a sense of security, it actually blurs the boundaries of normal relationships, allowing those with ulterior motives to find opportunities.

2. The inertia of compromise due to fear of conflict

found that the other party's colleague only said "don't do this next time" and instead apologized voluntarily when faced with cold violence. This kind of bottomless tolerance is like issuing a liability card to a scumbag. A healthy relationship requires two-way adjustment, and unilateral concessions will only encourage the other party to explore the bottom line.

2. compensation psychology for emotional deficiency

1. Compensation response for lack of love in childhood

Girls who lack parental emotional attention during their growth process are prone to using love as a pill to cure their childhood. When someone gives a little warmth and puts their whole heart into it, this "emotional hunger state" is precisely the easiest to be trapped by low-cost giving The road.

2. Idol drama style emotional fantasy

firmly believes that the plot of "the domineering CEO falls in love with me" will be staged in reality, interpreting the desire for control as caring and treating ups and downs as mysterious charm. This type of cognitive bias can cause girls to automatically beautify danger signals, getting deeper and deeper into the filter.

3. Low self-worth

1. Dependence on external evaluation system

Completely binding one's own value to the feedback of one's partner, the other person can no longer read back and suspects that they have said the wrong thing, which can create an emotional black hole. When self-awareness fluctuates with others' attitudes like in the stock market, it naturally attracts emotional traders.

2. The vicious cycle of breakup phobia

Knowing that there are problems in the relationship but not daring to leave, fearing that "missing this and never finding a better one". This mindset can trap girls in consumptive relationships and give scumbags the opportunity to repeatedly hurt them. Breaking this cycle requires starting from establishing a complete self-awareness. Try to record three moments of self affirmation every day and cultivate at least two hobbies that can bring a sense of achievement. When a stable value coordinate system is established in the heart, one can naturally distinguish which ones are sincere and which ones are traps. A good love should be the mutual nourishment of two complete individuals, rather than one filling the gap between the other.