The truth about women not being loved: this characteristic makes you lose the appreciation of your husband

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly saw a message from my best friend: 'He said he was too tired to be with me,' and the screen light reflected a selfie of her crying just now. We always think that not being loved is because we are not beautiful or excellent enough, but those moments of swallowing grievances alone at night often hide more hidden truths.

1. The Trap of Overgiving Personality

1. Love is not a one-way street of self consumption

A wife who prepares three dishes and one soup every day may be using an apron to tie up her charm. When giving becomes habitual overdraft, the other party receives not love but pressure. A healthy relationship requires blank space, just like the artistic conception of ink painting is not about filling the entire sheet of rice paper.

2. Sacrificial feelings can corrode one's loved ones The implicit meaning behind the phrase 'I gave up promotion opportunities for you' in the secret relationship

is actually forcibly depositing money into an emotional account. True love doesn't need to be proven with martyrdom. When you stop using payment to kidnap the other person, the relationship can breathe freely.

2. Imbalance in emotional value supply

1. Empathy ability is not equal to emotional garbage bin

Being able to accurately perceive a partner's emotions is a talent, but excessive absorption of negative emotions can exhaust energy. Just like a phone always having hotspot function on, the battery level will quickly alert. Occasionally switching to 'airplane mode' can actually make the other person miss your network signal.

2. Humor is an advanced emotional value.

Women who can tell a joke when their partner is working overtime and irritable are more attractive than those who constantly ask for help. Research has found that parents The frequency of laughter in intimate relationships is more predictive of happiness index than the number of gifts.

III. The danger of missing self dimensions Machine

1. Mystery is an eternal attraction

When your partner becomes the only coordinate system of your world, it's like losing the reading pleasure of a spoiled novel. Maintain your social circle and develop your interests. The topics that make your eyes light up when you talk about them are the most vibrant oxygen in a relationship.

2. Loving oneself is not selfishness, but ability.

Regular alone time, five years of flower arrangement classes, and unwavering fitness habits These seemingly 'selfless' persistence precisely constitute the vitality that others cannot underestimate. Healthy love is the encounter of two complete personalities, not two semicircles filling each other's gaps. The balance of relationships has never been that whoever gives more is more precious. When you stop playing the role of a lifeguard in love and start being a surfer, you can actually encounter a wider sea. It's better to make only one person for breakfast tomorrow, and paint nail polish on your spare time. At that moment, you will find that love is not the light you desperately grasp, but your own light.