The truth about relationships between men and women: Don't mess around, seize this and be sweet for a lifetime

When scrolling through your phone late at night, you can always see various emotional strategies teaching you "how to hold and pinch your partner", as if love is a war that requires 36 strategies. But those true companions who grow old together may not even have a battle robe in their wardrobe - they have already put their energy into more important things.

1. Continuous supply of emotional value is hard currency

1. understanding is more important than speaking

When the other party complains that "I'm tired from working overtime today" and is in a hurry to come up with an idea, it's better to offer a glass of warm water. Research has found that effective listening between partners can lower cortisol levels, with effects comparable to small psychological massages. Try replacing 'you should...' with 'I heard you...', the tone of the conversation will be completely different.

2. Create exclusive memory points

Regularly create a sense of ceremony that belongs only to you, such as the weekly Wednesday Dark Cooking Challenge or using Polaroid to record funny moments of supermarket purchases. These seemingly meaningless fragments will become automatically deployed buffer airbags during arguments.

2. Differences are not a problem, the way to deal with differences is

1. Leave a safe distance between personality differences

A combination of night owls and morning type people. Instead of forcing each other to change their schedule, it is better to agree to wear noise cancelling headphones after 22:00. Just like some plants prefer shade and some prefer sunlight, forcibly moving them can actually cause wilting.

2. Transform the conflict into a joke

After arguing three times about whether the toilet seat will be lifted or not, you can try to turn it into a family joke. When you can laugh and complain about "this is our intangible cultural heritage", the smell of gunpowder will naturally dissipate.

3. Long term relationships require regular "system upgrades"

1. Set relationship checkpoints

Choose a regular dinner every quarter and replace "Today's fish doesn't smell good" with "What makes you happiest/most frustrated recently". Just like updating the mobile system, clearing cache files in a timely manner is necessary for smooth operation.

2. Maintain a moderate sense of mystery

Suddenly stuffing a handwritten movie ticket into the other person's bag, or learning a magic trick to perform on weekends. This small surprise is like throwing a green plum into aged wine, which can bring a new level to familiar flavors. The secret of those golden couples is never earth shattering romance, but turning 'seeing each other' into muscle memory. Next time you want to complain about your partner littering socks, why not think about how he silently fixed the leaking faucet last time. True affection Mi is not without cracks, but willing to fill every gap with understanding.