The love that men truly want, we all got it wrong!

Do you think men need meticulous care? Is it the sweetness of being clingy for 24 hours? Late at night, I received a private message from a girl complaining that she cooks soup and delivers meals to her boyfriend every day, but he becomes increasingly cold. It wasn't until I found records of boys quietly searching for 'suffocating feelings of love' that I suddenly realized - we are all loving the wrong person in the way we think we are.

1. Independent space is more important than close companionship

1. Silence is not cold violence

The male brain structure determines that they need more "cave time". When they say they want to be quiet, they may just need to empty themselves for half an hour in front of the game console. Forcefully entering this space is like unplugging the power when his brain restarts.

2. Keep a sense of mystery and freshness

It's better to occasionally disappear for two hours to go to the gym than to report every detail of your whereabouts every day. The theory of intermittent reinforcement in psychology proves that moderate uncertainty can actually stimulate sustained attention.

2. Recognition is more important than care

1. Praising on specific details

Compared to the perfunctory "you're so great", pointing out his focused expression when fixing the faucet or his serious attitude when staying up late to change the plan, this concrete recognition can activate the brain's reward circuit more effectively.

2. Maintain his "heroic dream"

When he puts forward his weekend self driving travel plan, don't rush to roast about the unreasonable route. The protective instinct formed by male evolution needs to be released, even if navigation is eventually used, it must affirm his initial adventurous spirit.

3. Common growth is more important than one-sided effort

1. Creating a two-way sense of achievement

accompanying him on a night run to break through five kilometers is more unforgettable than simply handing him a towel. Mirror neurons can infect each other's efforts, and this feeling of fighting side by side can deeply activate emotional connections.

2. Keep 20% of your personal domain

If you are passionate about photography, you can delve into flower arrangement. Moderately developing your own interests can actually create fresh topics. Like two spiraling DNA strands, maintaining independence is necessary for better entanglement. The truly intelligent love is to become a charging station in his world rather than a monitor. The next time he cheers at the game screen, try handing over a drink instead of the remote control, and you'll find that tacit smile is a hundred times sweeter than forcing him to accompany you on a TV show. The so-called soulmate is nothing but the ability to freely roam in each other's universe and land on the same planet at any time.