The Awakening of Married Women: Living Beautifully Without Men

While scrolling through my phone late at night, I was suddenly hit by a message on my social media account - my best friend posted the caption "Happy Rebirth" on her divorce certificate. Someone in the comment section lamented that 'women still need to rely on each other,' but she replied, 'Now I am my own support.'. This sentence shone like a strong light into the hidden corners of many married women.

1. Marriage is not the entirety of life

1. Independent financial ability

The numbers on a salary card are more tangible than a husband's promise. Maintaining professional competitiveness is like buying yourself lifelong insurance. When unexpected events occur, the balance of savings is more warm than the words' I support you '.

2. Exclusive social circle

The hot pot restaurant of sisters is more important than waiting for her husband to come home for dinner. Regularly participating in interest groups and retaining the titles of "Ms. Zhang" and "Miss Wang" outside of being a mother, these social connections are the best buffer for emotions.

3. Continuous learning and growth

Enrolling in a flower arrangement class or taking a professional certificate is more fulfilling than checking one's husband's whereabouts every day. The new connections of brain synapses will bring unexpected new possibilities in life.

2. Loving oneself is not selfish

1. Priority of body management

Annual physical examination items are more worth looking forward to than anniversary gifts. The best dowry is health.

2. Self supply of emotional value

Learn to enjoy watching movies and eating hotpot alone, and the protagonist of the inner drama will always be oneself. Emotional stabilizers should not only be comforted by husbands, but also by 10 minute breathing exercises in meditation apps.

3. Aesthetic Freedom Release

Cutting short hair or dyeing exaggerated hair colors does not require husband's approval. There should be a few "please yourself" battle robes in the wardrobe, and the smile in front of the mirror is different Sexual evaluation is more important.

III. New Definition of Marriage relationship

1. From Attachment to Symbiosis

A good marriage is like two adjacent trees, with well-developed underground roots and occasional contact between branches and leaves on the ground. Retaining the right to travel alone is more beneficial for preserving relationships than 24-hour bundling.

2. Clear pricing for household chores

Converting labor such as childcare and cleaning into market prices will make the effort visible. Hiring professional helpers when necessary is more effective in solving problems than complaining about 'widowed parenting'.

3. Maintain singlehood.

Always have the ability to recover from being single at any time and live a good life. This confidence will actually make the marriage more pure. Just like carrying an escape hammer with you, it may not necessarily be used but must exist. Marriage is a besieged city, some people want to enter while others want to come out. But smart women have already dismantled the city walls - in their life chart, marriage is just one of the provinces. When women change their "wife" identity from the main title of their life to a subtitle, they can actually gain more fulfilling life experiences. Remember to say good morning to yourself in the mirror when the sun rises tomorrow.