Middle aged Separation: Three Types of People Lower Your Level, It's Not Too Late to Delete Now

There are over 500 friends lying in the WeChat address book, but less than 10 of them are actually contacted? People only realize in middle age that social circles also need regular "cleaning". The relationships that consume your energy are like apps that have never been opened on your phone, useless except for occupying memory. Today, I will teach you how to identify the three most important types of interpersonal relationships that need to be "disconnected", giving your life a refreshing slimming experience!

1. Emotional vampire friends

1. Always dumping negative energy

Every chat turns into their roast meeting, with bad work, unhappy marriage and unfilial children Like a black hole, it sucks away your good mood. psychological research has found that long-term exposure to negative emotions can lower serotonin levels.

2. Only taking without giving

When you need help, you can never find someone, but they always call and cry late at night. This one-way consumption relationship is essentially a plunder of your emotional value.

3. Recognition Features

2. Comparing Addictive Relatives

1. Everything needs to be compared.

From children's grades to year-end bonuses, even the price of the new curtains at your home needs to be inquired about. This kind of comparison will not bring any growth, it will only breed meaningless anxiety.

2. Using "for your own good" as an excuse

"My son-in-law earns a million yuan a year", "Your cousin's second child is already in kindergarten" Behind seemingly caring, there is often a sense of satisfaction that is flaunted.

3. Coping strategies

3. Workplace PUA colleagues [SEP]. These types of people are best at using fake relatives Concealing the true purpose.

2. Always testing the bottom line

"Anyway, if you're single, help me add a class", "If you're capable, take on more responsibilities" By constantly probing and encroaching on your time and resources.

3. Stop loss method

4. Practical guide for relationship termination

1. Set a three-month observation period

to provide a buffer time for relationships worth saving, and decisively close relationships that are beyond redemption.

2. Adopting "downgrade processing"

does not require direct blacklisting, it can be set to "chat only" first, and then gradually fade out of each other's lives.

3. Supplement high-quality socialization

Participate in book clubs and sports communities, and fill the gaps after cleaning with high-quality new relationships. If you have 10 fewer plastic friends in your contacts, your life will be 10 more relaxed. Remember, the social norm for middle-aged people should not be 'multiple friends, multiple paths', but' three or two close friends are enough '. When you start screening interpersonal relationships, the whole world becomes refreshed. The relationships that require you to maintain them carefully are not worth continuing in the first place!