In relationships between men and women, most women misunderstand the three things that men truly need

When a man says' I'm fine ', he may be stuffing a bunch of emotions into the bottom of the wardrobe; When men complain about being tired from work, they may be sending a distress signal using Morse code. In the maze of relationships between men and women, women holding the torch of "I understand you" often take the wrong turn - because what men want may be completely different from what you think.

1. Emotional freedom is more important than coaxing

1. Silence is not cold violence

When men face stress, their brains seem to turn on power-saving mode, and the silence at this time is actually an emotional sorting program running in the background. Forcing instant communication is like typing on a computer that has crashed.

2. Solution Priority

When a man talks about his troubles, 80% of his neurons are searching for solutions. At this point, 'don't be sad' is like handing snacks to someone who is solving a problem. It's better to ask 'Do you need me to help you look up information?' to make them feel understood.

3. Exclusive Tree Hole Time

Set aside a fixed time every week to turn off the suggestion mode, purely as a listener. During this time period, all you need to do is nod and say 'hmm', even 'then' is considered a violation.

2. Being needed is more important than being taken care of

1. Keep the help button

Treating men as smart furniture manuals is an insult to male genes. Try replacing 'I'll do it' with 'How to use this wrench', triggering his teaching instinct is much easier than triggering the washing machine button. When assembling furniture or planning travel routes together, men's brains secrete special achievement gratitude hormones. The key is not how perfect the result is, but rather how he felt during the process that he was a special forces soldier in the team rather than a tourist.

3. Moderately show weakness in art

Intentionally leaving some small tasks such as changing barrels of water and repairing the internet, like leaving a cardboard box for a cat. But pay attention to the frequency, the daily "blue screen on the computer" will make him suspect that you have bought counterfeit and inferior products.

3. Spiritual resonance is more important than life care

1. Shared thinking game

When watching suspense dramas together, hold back and avoid spoilers. Discussing the plot development is more effective in activating emotional connections than reminding them to eat fruit. Men need the pleasure of playing chess with their opponents, even if it's just a small matter like guessing the killer.

2. Cultivate common interests

You don't have to force yourself to fall in love with football, but you can remember the jersey numbers of your favorite players. When he noticed that you could distinguish between "offside" and "foul", his eyes sparkled brighter than receiving new sneakers.

3. Keep a mysterious space

Regularly update your knowledge base to let him discover that you suddenly start talking about blockchain or coffee baking. This kind of surprise that falls irregularly is comparable to the rare items randomly refreshed in the game. The preservation agent of SEP relationship is never a one-sided effort. When women stop loving in the way they want and start understanding in the way the other person needs, those twisted daily routines suddenly become silky smooth. Tonight, let's observe whether he is implying the need for technical support or wanting to be alone for a while when he complains about poor router signal?