I don't plan to marry your man, there will be these flaws when we get along

The biggest fear in relationships is not arguments, but when the other party has already secretly planned to leave, yet you are still weaving fantasies for the future. Some signals are like ice flowers on winter glass, seemingly beautiful but actually indicating the cold truth. Today, let's talk about the emotional warning devices hidden in the details.

1. Time investment becomes stingy

1. Date frequency drops sharply

from the thunderous movie night every week to "overtime this week", from instant messages to recurring messages. When you are always ranked after the courier pick-up and game ranking in his time allocation table, he may not even realize that he is subconsciously doing emotional score reduction.

2. Refuse opportunities for deep conversations

Every time you want to discuss the direction of the relationship, he can easily pass by with the phrase "This is not good right now". Important anniversaries can never be remembered, but the brotherhood's drinking party is never absent. This selective amnesia is often a manifestation of a lack of expectation for the future.

2. Extremely clear financial boundaries

1. Hidden barriers appear in consumer attitudes

People who rush to pay in the early stages of love now even require AA membership for shared videos. It is not advocating material bundling, but when a person strictly guards the boundary between "yours" and "mine", they are unlikely to see you as a community of shared destiny.

2. Avoiding the topic of major assets

When it comes to buying a house or a car, the topic is cleverly changed. I heard that my friend's first reaction to getting married is "why spend that money unnecessarily". This instinctive resistance to long-term investment exposes his true positioning of the relationship.

3. Maintain social distancing

1. Friends and family always meet "next time"

If you have been in a relationship for more than six months and haven't seen any of his friends, there will always be reasons why you can't take him to family gatherings. The degree of intersection in adult social circles often directly reflects the seriousness of emotions.

2. Zero interaction in cyberspace

You never appear in your social circle, and your social account status still shows as single. This deliberately created sense of singlehood is either a way out or waiting for other options.

4. Insufficient emotional value supply

1. Empathy ability suddenly goes offline

When you are sick, he is more worried about infecting himself, and when you are promoted, he only asks how much salary increase you will receive. When a person stops experiencing emotional fluctuations for their partner, it is essentially a cessation of emotional investment in the relationship.

2. The future tense is always vague

"This time next year, we may This type of conversation always ends in his silence. The person who truly wants to walk with you can't help but imagine scenes with silver hair, instead of not daring to talk about plans three months later.

Emotions don't require Sherlock Holmes style detectives, but maintaining a moderate level of clarity is necessary. If you are experiencing these signals, you may want to focus on yourself - after all, the best love should not be a guessing game, but a two-way commitment. Although winter is cold, spring is Heaven will come, it's important not to wait in the snow for someone who won't show up for the appointment.