Encountering such a woman, even if you love her, you must let go

I saw a private message while scrolling through my phone late at night: 'He treats me hot and cold, but every time he wants to leave, he can't bear to leave...' The accompanying picture is a screenshot of a full screen chat history. This kind of entanglement is like holding a hot potato, even though it hurts so much that you grimace and refuse to let go. The clarity in emotions often comes more suddenly than the flu, and when certain traits flash like a red warning light, perhaps the emergency brake button should be pressed.

1. Emotional blackmail becomes a daily communication method

1. Binding relationships with harm

Using "if you leave, I'll cut my wrist" as a retention line and "I can't live without you" as an emotional shackle. This is not a heartfelt confession, but a confession of affection The secret relationship turned into a hostage taking scene. A healthy emotional connection should be as natural as breathing, not like a ventilator in the ICU.

2. Always creating guilt

Choosing the wrong birthday gift is "not loving me at all", and not responding to messages in a timely manner after overtime becomes "not having this home in my heart". This type of dialogue pattern is like an emotional ledger, where each "debt" is magnified, bolded, and highlighted in red, ultimately turning into a pressure The anvil of breaking relationships.

2. The rule of double standards runs through the details of getting along with each other

1. Being strict with the law and being lenient towards oneself

Staying up late watching TV shows is relaxing and reducing stress, while playing games with others is like losing one's mind; Being different from oneself A group of sexual friends is called a socialite, and having meals with colleagues can be heartwarming The premonition of ignorance. This double label operation is comparable to a supermarket weighing platform, where the same action can weigh two different weights on different people.

2. Always the right debate champion

When arguing, her mistakes are all "forced by you", and your mistakes are all "exposed by nature". Just like the relationship with built-in photo editing software, always adding soft light filters to oneself and sharpening the other person's image to pore level flaws.

III. The emotional roller coaster does not have a safety bar

1. The barometer fails to change its face [SEP]. At breakfast, it was sweet to feed fried eggs, and at lunch time, it left the table because Tiktok @ didn't reply to the bowl falling. This mood switching speed makes the weather forecast feel ashamed. It is clear that when going out, it is marked "sunny", and a red rainstorm warning will be issued five minutes later.

2. Treat your partner as an emotional trash can

From grabbing credit from colleagues to spilling milk tea, all negative emotions require you to fully accept and digest them. This is not about managing love, but about running a 24-hour emotional garbage disposal station with built-in emotional decomposition function.

4. Only single seater seats are available in future plans

1. Major decisions will always be taken first and reported later

Suddenly resigning to travel to Dali, using credit cards to buy limited edition packages, and you will always be informed when these actions occur. The relationship between two people has become a solo talk show stage, and you are just the audience forced to applaud below.

2. Refuse any mutual growth

You said to sign up for a two person fitness card, but she thinks sweating and makeup will be ruined; You want to learn new skills together, she said it's more comfortable to watch short videos while lying down. This state is like forcibly bundling two books together, with the cover labeled as a 'series of books', and the content on the inner pages can never be connected. Adult love should not be like a defibrillator in the emergency room, requiring constant electric shocks to maintain a weak heartbeat. When you find yourself living like a bomb disposal expert in a relationship, nervously screening emotional landmines every day, perhaps it's time to reassess whether the relationship is worth continuing. A good partner should be like a down jacket in winter, not fancy or expensive, but wearing it can resist the cold wind.