Don't let love drag you down, these signs should be stopped in time

Late at night, I came across a 60 second voice formation sent by my best friend, and when I clicked on it, it was filled with cold and violent confessions about my boyfriend. I wanted to persuade her to 'give me another chance', but when I heard 'he's actually good to me' for the third time, I suddenly realized that some emotions are like expired yogurt, which doesn't seem strange on the surface, but after tasting it, I know it has already gone bad.

1. Emotional value: Long term inability to make ends meet

1. Unilateral emotional overdraft

After every date, it feels like being drained of energy, but the other person is still radiant. Your memo is filled with his preferences, he can't even remember your allergy to mangoes. This unequal payment pattern is essentially a chronic bleeding of emotional accounts.

2. Happiness needs to be deliberately created.

Chatting with friends can bring tears to your eyes, and when watching videos with them, you need to come up with jokes in advance. When maintaining a relationship becomes a "job" that requires racking one's brain, it indicates that your emotional CPU is overloaded.

2. The body triggers warnings earlier than the brain

1. Unexplained pain

Physical examination report shows that everything is normal, but there are often headaches and stomach pains. The body does not lie, and a constantly tense relationship can make muscles tense like rubber bands, ultimately protesting through pain.

2. Sleep quality drops sharply

At 3am, repeatedly flipping through chat records, counting sheep turns into counting "Does he love me or not. Long term sleep deprivation can lower serotonin levels, creating a vicious cycle of low mood.

3. Abnormal fluctuations in social circles

1. Friends become "persuaded to form groups"

When girlfriends collectively remain silent or hesitate to speak, it is often a signal that bystanders are clear. dear. The intuitive judgment of close friends is sometimes more worthy of reference than the love brain.

2. Avoid family inquiries

Always turn the camera towards the ceiling during video calls Fabricating excuses for overtime work. If the thought of introducing the other person to family makes your scalp tingle, you may need to reassess this relationship.

4. Continuous degradation of self-awareness

1. Starting to doubt one's own value

from "I am worthy of love" to "Maybe I am too creative". A healthy love should be like a protective rope in the gym, allowing you to dare to challenge higher goals, rather than a chain that binds your hands and feet.

2. Abandoning the original life pivot

Exiting the dance club because "he doesn't feel secure" and rejecting promotion opportunities because "he's afraid he won't have time to accompany him". When love becomes an axe that cuts off other life options, it has become a dangerous relationship. A truly high-quality relationship should not be Russian roulette, relying on a lucky mentality to expect the next round to be empty. Pay attention to the subtle 'something is wrong', and sometimes releasing your clenched fist in time can actually catch a gift that suits you better. Winter is the best time to clean expired items, including those that consume energy, after all, spring When the sky comes, you have to spare your hands to embrace new possibilities.