Don't guess! The True Psychology of Men's Cold War, Article 2: Girls Can't Stand It

Have you ever encountered such a situation? Although it was just a trivial matter, he suddenly turned on the "silent mode", not responding to messages, not answering calls, and even automatically blocking eye contact. This frozen state can last from a few hours to half a month, making people crazy enough to want to smash their phones. In fact, behind men's cold war behavior, there is a psychological code that even they themselves are not aware of.

1. Why do men prefer to use the Cold War as a weapon?

1. Primitive instincts play a role.

In ancient times, male hunting required high concentration, and this genetic memory of "shielding interference" has continued to this day. When emotions are overloaded, the brain instinctively activates "cave time", just like a computer automatically shuts down to protect itself from overheating.

2. Avoidant coping mechanism

Compared to women, most men are taught from a young age that "men are not light hearted when they have tears". When conflicts arise, silence becomes a flood barrier for them to avoid emotional breakdowns.

3. Passive Attack Transformation

Some silence carries a smell of gunpowder, using zero communication to exert mental pressure. This covert attack can maintain surface dignity while also causing the other party to scratch their hearts and minds, which is a typical example of 'nonviolent non cooperation'.

2. The most frustrating type of Cold War for women

1. Sudden evaporation

One second, they were still discussing what to have for dinner, and the next second, they went missing for three days. This kind of sudden disconnection is most likely to trigger anxiety and make people constantly reflect on 'which sentence did I say wrong?'.

2. Yin Yang Qi Cold Violence

Maintaining basic communication on the surface, but every sentence carries ice fragments. The perfunctory triple hit of "whatever" and "as long as you're happy" consumes more emotional accounts than directly arguing.

3. Refusal to solve problems

When the woman initiates communication, she either uses "I'm not angry" as an excuse or throws "You overthink" to deny the three consecutive attempts. The problem is like a snowball rolling bigger and bigger, eventually evolving into a trust crisis Machine.

3. Cracking the psychological tactics of the Cold War

1. Creating a secure exit

can be said as follows: "If you need to calm down, let's talk in two hours?" Provide a clear timeline that respects the other party's space needs while avoiding getting stuck in an indefinite wait.

2. Nonverbal ice breaking technique

Offering a cup of hot tea or lightly tapping the shoulder, sometimes body language is more effective than a thousand words. Pay attention to maintaining natural movements and avoid becoming deliberately pleasing.

3. Set communication bottom line

Advance agreement: "No matter how angry you are, you cannot go missing for more than 24 hours". Establish a mutually recognized emotional emergency plan to prevent the Cold War from escalating into an emotional disaster.

Next time you encounter him suddenly turning on the "refrigerator mode", why not try these methods. Remember, a healthy relationship should not be a guessing game, but a two-way rush between two people who dare to cry and laugh. Instead of wasting love in silence, it's better to use this energy to warm each other.