Don't guess! He treats you with warmth like this No, it's not true love

Warm It's like a cup of bitter coffee with added sugar, sweet on the surface, but only after drinking it do I realize that my mouth is full of bitterness. Although the other party sends good morning and good night on time every day and never misses the likes on their Moments, when you tentatively take a step forward, they suddenly take three steps back. This kind of ambiguous push-pull game not only consumes time, but also the expectation of love.

1. Warmth What are the essential differences between ignorance and true love

1. The difference in initiative

True love will actively plan for the future, warm I only enjoy the present moment. The former will seriously discuss practical issues such as cohabitation cities and career development, while the latter always uses "letting nature take its course" as a shield.

2. Differences in Transparency

The person who determines the relationship will naturally integrate into the other person's social circle, which is warm The object of ignorance remains mysterious. You will find that he never takes you to class reunions, and his phone screen suddenly dims when you get closer.

3. Differences in Engagement

People who truly love you are willing to adjust their lifestyle habits to cooperate with you, such as quitting smoking or getting up early to take you to the airport. Warm The ambiguous object only appears when it is convenient for you, and always works overtime when you need them.

2. How to identify toxic heating Obsessive signals

1. Language system disorder

is full of "you are important" and "I don't want to lose you", but it doesn't say "let's be together". This kind of rhetoric is like trying out food in a supermarket, trying a bite to catch your appetite, and you have to pay for it yourself if you want to be full.

2. Schr ö dinger's Single State

You have held hands and watched movies, but never interacted on social media. The explanation given by TA is' not fond of showing affection ', but in reality, it is to leave room for other potential development partners.

3. Emotional ATM mode

only confides in you when you are feeling down or frustrated at work, and disappears when your energy is restored. You are not the person they want to spend their whole life with, just an emotional band aid that can be used anytime.

Thirdly, break out of the warmth Practical methods for confusion

1. Set a clear deadline

for yourself to observe for 3 months, during which you should stop excessive effort. If there is still no progress in the expired relationship, withdraw decisively. A true hunter will not always stay in a place without traps.

2. Have a critical conversation

Choose an opportunity when both parties are in a good state and start the conversation with "I noticed we often have XXX, how do you view our relationship?" Pay attention to whether the other party is serious about discussing or changing the topic.

3. Rebuilding social focus

Intentionally reduce response frequency and allocate time to friend gatherings or skill learning. When you no longer revolve around them, you can see clearly who is revolving around you. Adult love should be like crystal in the sunshine, clear and transparent without playing guessing games. If you are experiencing a period of warmth that exceeds six months May I ask myself directly: Do I really enjoy this state, or am I afraid of the loss after revealing the answer? Sometimes it's not that we can't see the truth clearly, it's just that we're too good at finding excuses for each other.