When WeChat replies change from seconds to cycles, dates change from carefully planned to "anything is fine", and even photos of you changing your hairstyle only deserve one emoji - these signals are like the last string of fish balls in convenience store Kanto Cooking, clearly still soaking in soup, but everyone knows it's not fresh anymore. The clues of emotional cooling are often hidden in the folds of life. Today, let's use a magnifying glass to look at those warning signals that are easily overlooked.

1. There is a clear discontinuity in the behavior pattern
1. Time allocation suddenly reorganizes
The movie nights that were originally unpredictable every week are now frequently replaced by overtime, but the game's black time mysteriously increases. Pay attention to the authenticity behind those 'unavoidable' situations. Those who are truly busy will actively make up for the missing companionship, while those who are perfunctory will always find the next excuse.
2. Body language becomes distant
When walking side by side, the arms no longer naturally touch each other, the shoulder muscles become noticeably stiff when hugging, and kissing becomes a quick touch. The human body is 100 times more honest than the mouth when it comes to kissing The secret action seems to be completing the KPI, most likely due to insufficient emotional inventory.
2. Emotional investment shows a cliff like decline
1. Topic depth returns to the safe zone [SEP], no longer actively sharing childhood embarrassing stories or workplace troubles, conversation stays at the plastic level of "have you eaten yet" and "haven't finished work yet". Just like changing the visibility of one's social circle from three days to one month, the widening of psychological distance often begins with language simplification.
2. The future plan automatically blocks you from saying "I might" when discussing next year's travel and saying "let's see" when it comes to changing jobs. All ideas that include "us" have degenerated into singular form. When a person stops writing you into their life story, they are likely to have quietly withdrawn their investment in their heart.
3. Detail maintenance enters energy-saving mode
1. Selective memory decline
Although I remember the cooldown time of game equipment, I always forget that you don't eat coriander; Can memorize the transfer records of football players, but confuse the restaurant where you had your first date. It's not that the brain storage space is insufficient, it's just that important files have been moved out of the favorites.
2. Conflict Handling: Turn on the mute button
In the past, I would argue over trivial matters until I was embarrassed, but now I don't even bother organizing language when arguing. When the other party is unwilling to consume even the energy of anger, what is even more terrifying than Hestily is the complete emotional energy-saving mode.
4. Abnormal data on social dynamics
1. Abnormal online interaction frequency
Weibo suddenly praised the selfie of a strange girl, and more than a dozen dance anchors were added to Tiktok's attention list. Although it cannot be judged arbitrarily, sudden changes in the content pushed by algorithms often reflect a shift in search preferences.
2. Offline Social Circle Reset
Brother gatherings suddenly do not include family members, and fixed female colleagues always appear in photos of colleague gatherings. When the original social rules are broken, the admission standard for the new circle may be 'inconvenient to have you present'.
Of course, these signals appearing alone may be a misunderstanding, but when checking in for multiple symptoms in groups, it's time to open the emotional health check form. Any relationship needs to be regularly maintained and upgraded. Instead of being consumed by suspicion, it's better to have a candid conversation between adults. After all, the energy of modern people is precious and not worth wasting on decoding blurry signals.
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