Do you want men to be inseparable from you? This move is much more effective than the Cold War!

The biggest fear in relationships is not arguing, but using the wrong way to get closer. Those girls who use the Cold War as a weapon often find themselves frostbitten in the end. The secret to warming up relationships is actually hidden in three small things every day.

1. Replace blame with "demand expression"

1. Stop saying "you always"

When "you always play games" turns into "we haven't been watching TV shows together for a long time", the gunpowder instantly turns into icing sugar. Try using the formula "I feel... because... I hope...", such as "It hurts to see you working overtime, how about we cook hotpot over the weekend?"

2. Install a buffer pad for emotions

When angry, take three deep breaths first. These 6 seconds can calm the amygdala. You can prepare a stress relieving toy and hold it to automatically soften your voice by three points.

2. Create an exclusive emotional account

1. Deposit some "surprise change"

and insert a hand drawn gas card into his computer bag, helping him preheat his bath towel in advance while taking a shower. Neuroscientists have found that occasional small surprises can increase dopamine secretion by 27%.

2. Develop two person secret codes

Create memes that only you understand, such as using specific emojis to represent "missing you". This secret language activates the sense of belonging area of the brain, which is more effective than saying 'I love you' a hundred times.

3. Maintain just the right distance

1. Leave each other charging time

Set a fixed 2-hour alone time per week, where he plays games and you read books. The hedgehog effect in psychology tells us that sticking too close can actually hurt the other person.

2. Cultivate an independent social circle

Activities such as friend gatherings and interest classes without family members can provide you with fresh topics every time you meet again. Just as plants need to change pots, relationships also require breathing space. The true good relationship is not about who cannot live without whom, but about two independent people choosing to walk side by side. Try these methods, maybe next winter you will harvest a warmer kiss than heating Confidential relationship.