be vigilant! Men treating you like this is not true love at all, but treating you as a spare tire

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly saw a string of angry emojis from my best friend. When I clicked on the voice strip, I heard her gritting her teeth and saying, "He actually flirted with three girls at the same time!" This kind of plot is even more common than the 8 o'clock dog blood drama, but the parties involved often realize it later. Some behaviors may appear gentle and considerate on the surface, but in reality, they hide dangerous signals.

1. Always appear when needed

1. Temporary invitations become a fixed pattern

Send "Do you want to come out for a drink" at 9pm on Friday, and always make appointments two hours in advance for holidays. This random way of brushing presence is like the "limited time special offer" in extreme food delivery apps. A normal relationship will plan a meeting time in advance, rather than always asking you to cooperate with his sudden ideas.

2. Emotional Tree Hole Unidirectional Business

When I was heartbroken, I cried to you and was scolded by my boss for comfort, but when you share your life, the other person's reply always stays in the "hmm" emoji. The law of conservation of emotional energy in psychology suggests that healthy relationships require a two-way flow of emotional value.

2. Abnormal lag in relationship progress bar

1. Social circle insulation treatment

After being in a relationship for three months and not seeing any of his friends, there is no trace of you in his social circle. This "invisible lover" state should be guarded against. Research has shown that openness is an important indicator of commitment, and those who refuse to bring you to a colleague dinner are likely to be reserving a way out.

2. Key Topics: Fancy Evasion

Every time we talk about future plans, we suddenly "run out of battery" and say "wait a little longer" when it comes to meeting parents. Pay attention to whether the other party is using delaying tactics. People who truly want to develop a relationship with you will actively promote the relationship instead of always letting you guess.

3. The scale of effort is severely tilted

1. The economic balance sheet is unequal

The birthday gift is convenience store chocolate, but it implies wanting the most New gaming consoles; They always say 'the most tight on hand' to make you pay, but they frequently update their trendy outfits. Material sacrifices may not necessarily represent sincerity, but long-term frugality can definitely reflect the degree of importance attached.

2. There is a huge difference in time cost.

You cross half a city to work overtime with him, but he doesn't even want to deliver medicine for your cold to his doorstep. Behavioral economists have found that people instinctively increase their time investment in important things, and if they are always "just not available", you may just be an alternative to their schedule.

4. Disclaimer for Dangerous Relationships

1. Getting vaccinated in advance

"I'm not good at long-term relationships" "I'm afraid of hurting you, so I dare not promise", these seemingly honest disclaimers are actually words that lower your expectations. It's like buying a product without after-sales guarantee, he's already prepared to withdraw at any time. This intermittent disconnection is like the automatic restart function of an unqualified product, the fundamental problem has never been solved, only temporarily dormant. A healthy relationship should be like a warm stove in winter, continuously and steadily emitting temperature, rather than like a hot drink machine in a convenience store, where coins only have three minutes of heat. When you start repeatedly questioning whether he likes me or not, the answer is usually already written in the details that make you uneasy. A worthy person won't let you search for candy in glass shards, let alone make you a backup meal on their emotional menu.