Be careful! This way of getting along is killing your love

Have you ever noticed that even though two people are under the same roof every day, it feels like they are separated by a galaxy? The brightness of the phone screen is more familiar than the other person's gaze, and there are more takeout orders than hugs. This kind of 'false intimacy' is like boiling a frog in warm water, and by the time it detects something wrong, the relationship has already been hollowed out.

1. Electronic devices become the "third party"

1. Silent killer on the dining table

The sound of chopsticks touching bowls is louder than conversation, not because the food is too delicious, but because both of them are watching short videos. Research shows that 75% of couples admit to using their phones during meals, a habit that can be detrimental to their relationship The density decreases by 3% per week. Try to put your phone in the drawer. Even if it's just roast that today's food is salty, it's the beginning of reconnection.

2. Bedtime Double Bed Solo Drama

Scenes of back-to-back binge watching are more common than idol dramas. The face illuminated by the blue light of your phone in the darkness is stealing your last emotional communication time. Reserve 15 minutes of unplugged time to chat about the fun or troubles of the day, and the comfort conveyed by body temperature is better than a thousand goodnight emojis.

2. Treating politeness as a subtle feeling

1. The trap of excessive independence

Saying "I can do it myself" too much can make the other person really let go. Moderately showing weakness is not a pretense, but an opportunity for the partner to participate in life. When the bottle cap cannot be unscrewed, naturally seeking help can enhance intimacy more than deliberately creating strength.

2. The gentle knife to avoid conflict

is afraid of hurting the relationship, so they hold back their dissatisfaction, resulting in a barrier lake of grievances. Expressing feelings using the "me sentence structure": "When you work overtime and don't answer the phone, I feel worried and have stomach pain" is more easily accepted than "You don't care about me at all". Set up roast meetings regularly. A small matter is only night.

3. The pace of life is completely out of sync

1. The biological clock time difference is dangerous A morning person is a night owl, even a morning kiss depends on luck. Adjusting one's schedule is not realistic, but it can create moments of crossover. Night owls prepare breakfast bento boxes, morning type people leave a small night light, and use actions to say 'I remember you'.

2. Zero overlap in interest circles

He watches sports games and you chase stars, but the common topic is only water and electricity bills. There is no need to force love to be consistent, but a 'middle ground' can be developed. For example, playing two player games together or trying out new things recommended by each other every month may reveal hidden common interests.

4. Each has their own way of planning for the future

1. Financial division is too clear

The AA system is so strict that even tissues are recorded, making it easy to become roommates. Establishing a common dream fund, even if only 500 yuan is saved each month for travel, the flow of money will bring resonance to the goal.

2. The blueprint of life doesn't match

One wants to have sex while the other hopes for a second child. The earlier we communicate this fundamental disagreement, the better. Opening a conversation with hypothetical questions like 'if... you would' is more gentle than directly arguing. Regularly reviewing relationships is like giving a health check-up to a relationship. Love is not about finding the perfect person, but about learning to view imperfect people with a perfect perspective. Starting from tonight's dinner where I don't play with my phone, give it to my dear A chance to restart the confidential relationship once. Remember, all relationships worth cherishing require regular cache cleaning.