Be careful of 3 out of the 5 red lights in marriage!

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly received a series of calls from my best friend. Suppressed sobs came from the other end of the phone: 'He actually said I was being unreasonable...' Isn't this scene familiar? Marriage is like two people walking together under an umbrella, and when the umbrella ribs start to creak, there are often early signs.

1. The dialogue mode has changed to "interrogation scene"

1. Daily communication is full of gunpowder

The conversation that originally shared interesting stories has changed to "Why were you late again today?" "Did you pick up the package last Wednesday?" Every sentence seems to be checking criminal evidence, even the tone is sharp with interrogation.

2. Avoid deep communication

One party keeps throwing out "let's talk", while the other party always answers "there's nothing to talk about". Important topics are always diverted to dinner menus or weather forecasts, like two radio stations talking to each other on different frequencies.

3. Resistance to body language exposure

Holding arms, wandering eyes, and frequently looking at phones during conversation are subtle actions that are more honest than language. When one of them starts using the pillow as a shield, it means that the psychological defense line has been built.

2. Common memories begin to fade

1. anniversaries become optional

The wedding anniversary that was once carefully prepared now requires half an hour of indecision about which delivery point to go to. It's not forgetting the date, but losing the urge to celebrate, just like treating an ordinary Tuesday.

2. Group photos disappear from the album

Mobile album is the best The new photos are all work files and pet videos. The last time we took a group photo with two people was a travel photo from two years ago. It's not that there's no chance to take a picture, it's that no one is suggesting 'let's take a picture' anymore.

3. Future plans no longer overlap.

When discussing next year's plans, one said they wanted to change their school district house, while the other was researching solo Antarctic tours. Two life trajectories are like parallel railway tracks, extending to different distant places.

3. Small things ignite big emotions

1. Tolerance drops precipitously

The socks that used to be able to laugh and complain about are thrown around, but now it will cause a half hour roar. The squeezing method of toothpaste and the setting of air conditioning temperature have suddenly become fundamental issues.

2. Flipping through old accounts becomes a conditioned reflex.

Automatically retrieves chat records from three months ago during arguments, as well as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from five years ago. The memory is as accurate as installing a search engine. Every time we argue, we overdraw our emotional account.

3. The Cold War cycle is getting longer and longer

has evolved from "coaxing for three hours" to "not talking for three days", and silence has built a transparent wall between the two. The scariest thing is that later on, even the desire to argue disappeared.

Fourth, dear Formula based secret behavior

1. Physical contact is like completing a KPI [SEP]. Good morning kisses become task check-in, with hug duration precise to seconds. As a relative The secret action requires an alarm to remind, just like watering plastic flowers in vain.

2. Extremization of Private Space

The bathroom usage time inexplicably extends, and the wardrobe consciously divides into Chu River and Han boundary. It's not about creating personal space, but about creating physical isolation.

3. Simultaneous Failure of Humor

Previously, a funny face could resolve conflicts, but now telling jokes feels like doing stand up comedy. When laughter retreats from life, silence amplifies all the small frictions.

5. Social circle changes

1. Severe imbalance in attendance at gatherings

There is always one person who "happens to work overtime" at family dinners, and friends start attending their weddings alone. The shared social circle is like a torn sticker, gradually separating into two worlds.

2. Suddenly increasing number of new friends

Fitness coach, gaming teammates, book club friends These new social relationships fill the time that should have belonged to a partner for confiding.

3. Social Dynamic Style Mutation

One party begins to frequently post melancholic lyrics, while the other suddenly shares exquisite single meals. Moments have become invisible signal flares for seeking help. Marriage is like an ancient building that requires regular maintenance, cracks will not appear overnight. If these signals have been frequently on, why not find a sunny weekend, make two cups of tea, and start a simple conversation like 'Are you tired from work today?'. The repair of relationships does not lie in earth shattering rituals, but in adding an extra spoonful of understanding sugar every day.