Attention women! Men who engage in these behaviors are probably using you as a backup tire

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly received a message from him. The corners of my mouth just lifted and then froze - above the "Working overtime, next appointment" dialog box, it showed that he had just liked a group photo of our mutual friend two minutes ago. This experience of being caught between ice and fire, many girls can instantly imagine the complete plot. Some signals are like expired food in convenience stores, seemingly sweet with discounts and promotions, but actually hiding the risk of imminent expiration.

1. Social dynamics always take priority over you

1. Imbalance in online activity

In chat records, you always send five replies from him, but he is always on your friend circle like list. He pretended not to see the travel vlog you shared, and under the selfie of his female colleague, he instantly commented, 'It was taken really well.'.

2. Realistic invitations are always a backup.

Every date happens after a friend stands up or a game is canceled. You made a meal appointment two weeks in advance, and he said he would watch again. He only informed you that he was "just available" and hinted that you should feel honored for his last-minute idea.

2. Always Blurring Key Links

1. Avoiding relationship Definition

When you tentatively ask "What are we doing now", he will use "let nature take its course" to evade or suddenly praise you for being "different from those vulgar girls". The key is that he never takes actual action to get you into his circle of life.

2. Future planning does not include you.

When discussing next year's plans, he talked in detail about studying abroad and changing cities for development, but naturally ignored the connection between these changes and you. When you can't help but ask, you will only receive a universal answer of 'we'll talk later'.

3. Emotional investment is always carefully calculated

1. Pay attention to cost-effectiveness

Holiday gifts are always supermarket chocolate sets, but they will emphasize "imported"; Inviting guests specifically for Tuesdays with half price, but saying 'specially selected time with fewer people'. All efforts should make you feel like you have taken advantage, but in fact, he is controlling sunk costs.

2. Limited supply of emotional value

When you have a cold, he only says "drink more hot water", but when a female colleague sprained her foot, he voluntarily gave medicine. When you need comfort, he is always busy, but when he gets bored, he asks you to chat with him in seconds, turning emotional interaction into on-demand allocation.

4. Relationship Status Always Double Standards

1. Unequal Secret Permissions

He checks your phone address book at any time, but he himself notes "10086" to female friends; I asked you to report your itinerary, but when I disappeared on the weekend, I said 'I need personal space'.

2. Social Presence Differences

Mutual friends all think that you are just ordinary friends because they never actively introduce your identity. But your social media account is slightly different When it comes to sexual interaction, he immediately accuses himself of "caring about you". A truly worthwhile relationship should be like a down jacket in winter, warm inside and out. The warmth that requires you to constantly brainstorm details and self persuade Most of the time, it is a carefully designed 'trial outfit' by others. When you start repeatedly verifying whether you are valued, the answer is often already written in the details that have not been properly treated. A healthy emotion does not require detective like insight, it should be as bright as a 24-hour light box in a convenience store.