After a man cheats, he realizes that his wife's efforts are never taken for granted

After finishing work at 3am and returning home, I found warm sobering soup on the dining table; On weekends, I slept until dawn and when I opened my eyes, I saw a clean shirt swaying gently in the wind on the balcony. These familiar details, like breathing, are so natural that one forgets their existence - until one day, someone suddenly cuts off the oxygen tube.

1. Neglected "Family CEO"

1. Hidden Labor List

Remember the mother-in-law's allergy to coriander, the child's vaccination schedule, and the monthly water and electricity payment cycle. These tasks that require high memory and coordination skills are often simply classified as "easy things". In fact, the energy consumption of the brain in processing such information is no less than that of multi-threaded work in the office.

2. Emotional Value Production Line

From resolving conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to soothing husbands who have suffered setbacks in the workplace, the psychological energy consumed in regulating family emotions far exceeds imagination. Psychological research shows that people who provide long-term emotional support have consistently high levels of cortisol.

3. Danger Emergency response for children with late night fever and reception plans for sudden visits from relatives in their hometown, which require quick decision-making The test is the life wisdom accumulated over many years.

2. The Economic Truth in Marriage

1. Opportunity Cost Accounting

The decision to give up promotion opportunities and choose flexible work, and the decision to reject the weekend when my best friend travels to take care of her husband with a cold at home, are all self sacrifices with clear prices behind each choice.

2. Asset depreciation rate

Behind the visible wear and tear of hand skin soaked in dishwashing detergent for years and the fine lines around the eyes formed by staying up late is the continuous output of youth, a non renewable resource.

3. Venture capital return rate

When she invests her golden twenty years in the "project" of her family, what she may receive is not a share dividend, but a judgment of "you haven't worked all these years".

3. The possibility of rebuilding relationships

1. Quantitative cognitive training

Try using project management software to record the health data and schedule of family members. Only when these invisible tasks become visualized charts can the complexity of daily operations be truly perceived.

2. Emotional Bookkeeping Practice

Record three small things your partner does every day, whether it's keeping breakfast for you or collecting dry clothes. This behavior can rebuild the recognition of the value of 'taking for granted'.

3. Role Swap Experiment

Regularly arrange 24-hour role swapping to allow people who are accustomed to being taken care of to experience the entire process from bargaining at the market to tutoring homework. Real muscle memory is more effective than any preaching. The handwriting on the sticky notes on the refrigerator may fade, but the embodied love should not be diluted by time. In the dance of marriage, visible steps are important, but more importantly, it is the perception of each other's lifting power.