Advice from experienced people: Don't focus on men after marriage, these two are your trump cards

When I first put my marriage certificate in my pocket, I always felt that turning my husband around like the sun was the ultimate answer to happiness. Until one day, he discovered that his wardrobe was filled with his shirts, his itinerary was recorded in his memo, and even the topic of his best friend's party became "my friend" I suddenly realized that I had become a satellite in my marriage. In fact, truly intelligent girls understand that the ace that should be held in the palm of their hands after marriage is not their significant other.

1. Health is a fixed asset that never depreciates.

1. When your body breaks down, no one will take care of you.

At 3am, I cooked supper for him who was working overtime, only to find out that he had stomach ulcers; To save money for the nanny and take care of the child's household chores, the lumbar disc herniation has increased faster than the salary. Those health issues that are overdrawn for the family will eventually turn into cold diagnoses on medical records. Don't slack off on regular check ups, the gym is more worth your time than the kitchen.

2. Emotional health determines the quality of marriage

Relying solely on the speed at which the husband responds to WeChat can easily lead to emotional outbursts Bullet. It is better to sweat on the yoga mat than to tear on the mobile phone. The afternoon tea of sisters at the book club is more interesting than to speculate about the whereabouts of the husband. Women who maintain emotional independence are actually more likely to gain respect.

2. Earning ability is the greatest sense of security

1. Bank card balance is more reliable than vows

"I'll take care of you" sounds romantic, but no one tells you that the validity period may only be during the honeymoon period. Maintain competitiveness in the workplace, even if you only earn an extra two thousand yuan per month, you can enroll your child in interest classes without looking at your mother-in-law's face, and you don't have to wait for your husband's approval to buy health products for your parents.

2. Economic independence is the only way to have freedom of choice

I found that his phone was warm When texting, wealthy girls can directly book flights to Sanya to relax, while those without income can only hide in the bathroom and cry. It's not encouraging divorce, but the numbers in your bank account can keep you confident that you can leave at any time in your marriage, which actually makes the relationship more equal. Marriage is like a three legged game between two people, tying the rope too tightly can easily cause falls. Leave some distance for the endorphins in the gym and allocate some energy to the sense of achievement on the road to making money. When you live like a scenery, naturally someone will be willing to stop and appreciate it. After all, the best marital relationship is two trees growing side by side, not vines winding around dead trees.