A woman who has been unloved for a long time can't help but behave like this in front of a man

Have you noticed that some women are kissing Always cautious in close relationships, like holding a lamp that can go out at any moment? They may habitually bow their heads to avoid their gaze, or exchange excessive payment for a word of affirmation. Behind these behaviors, there is often a thirst hidden A heart that hopes to be taken seriously.

1. Overindulgence becomes a conditioned reflex

1. Put the other person's needs first

Always keep his favorite drink in the fridge, with a large green dialogue box in the chat history. These women will unconsciously prioritize satisfying their partners' preferences and even change their own dietary tastes. This kind of effort does not stem from the joy of sharing, but from the anxiety of worrying that 'if you don't do it, you will be hated'.

2. Difficult to refuse unreasonable requests

Despite working overtime and feeling tired, I promised to pick me up late at night and persisted in doing housework despite feeling unwell. They are accustomed to using self consumption to maintain relationships, equating "being needed" with "being loved", as if they are always filling an bottomless emotional black hole.

2. Self doubt permeating daily details

1. Repeatedly confirming the other person's emotions

"Are you angry? This sentence may be asked three times a day. Women who have been lacking love for a long time are extremely sensitive to emotional changes and interpret their partner's frowning and silence as dissatisfaction, like walking on thin ice. They have a strict judge in their hearts, always comparing 'Is his ex more beautiful?' 'My education level is not good enough.' This self denial can form an emotional vicious cycle.

3. Validating Love in the Wrong Way

1. Intentionally Creating Small Contradictions

Suddenly deleting WeChat and adding it back, intentionally being half an hour late for the appointment. Seemingly 'doing' behavior is actually a disguised request for attention, just like a child confirming through crying that their mother will not leave, but the adult version of the test is more subtle.

2. Overinterpreting the flat period

When a relationship enters a stable stage, it can actually lead to panic. The other party suspects that their relationship has deteriorated without saying a word of goodnight, and interprets normal busy work as cold and violent. This sense of unease often stems from a lack of early emotional experience.

4. The possibility of rebuilding healthy relationships

1. Establish an emotional support system

Cultivate two or three friends who can speak their minds and participate in interest communities. When emotional needs no longer rely solely on one person to satisfy, it's like opening a few more windows in a house, allowing sunlight to naturally shine in from different angles.

2. Practice the Courage to Be Selfish

Starting with ordering your favorite dishes, to refusing parties you don't want to attend. Every small self assertion is like planting a sapling in the heart, which can eventually grow into a forest that protects self-esteem. A truly healthy love should not be like walking on a tightrope, but knowing that even if you occasionally make a mistake, someone will surely catch you. Those habitual humble postures may need to be reinterpreted as gentle power - all we need to do now is turn this power towards ourselves.