A trick to make men think of you crazily: learn this' push-pull technique '

Have you noticed that some girls, despite their ordinary appearance, always leave a lasting impression on boys? They are like black holes with their own magnetic fields, making people unable to resist the urge to approach but unable to figure them out. In fact, this kind of attraction is not mystical, but a psychological technique called "push-pull". Mastering it, you can also become a "human sobering agent" that can make people dizzy.

1. Create a sense of mystery that is both immediate and distant

1. Chat rhythm control method

Do not reply to every message in seconds, delaying the reply appropriately can create a sense of anticipation. But it should be noted that the interval time should not be too long, preferably 5-30 minutes, to avoid making the other person feel neglected. The key is to maintain the quality of the content when replying and guide the conversation with open-ended questions.

2. The golden ratio of social dynamics

It is best to control the frequency of updates in the friend circle to 2-3 per week, and avoid all content being selfies. You can intersperse interesting life stories, hobbies, and occasionally showcase cooking or sports photos to create a three-dimensional image. Remember to keep 30% of the mysterious space, there is no need to share everything in detail.

2. The Art of Creating Emotional fluctuations

1. Balancing Praise and Joke

First, sincerely praise a certain trait of the other person, and the next day, use a humorous way to "hit" them lightly. For example, first praise him for his tasteful dressing, and next time we meet, we can say, 'Today's outfit reminds me of my grandfather's old photos.'. This contrast can stimulate dopamine secretion and create a desire to explore.

2. The magic of sudden surprises

Occasionally breaking conventions can deepen memory points. For example, he usually invites you, but suddenly one day he takes the initiative to invite you; Or give a small gift without saying the reason. This uncertainty activates the brain's reward system, which is more impressive than continuous effort.

3. Establish a unique emotional connection

1. Create exclusive memory points

Cultivate internal memes that only you understand, such as assigning special codes to shared experiences or inventing gestures that only two people understand. This kind of private Secret symbols will form emotional bonds, and when they encounter related things in life, they will naturally think of you.

2. Moderately display fragile faces

Occasionally share some harmless small embarrassing things or troubles, but don't turn them into negative energy output. For example, self deprecating small mistakes at work or seeking help with decision-making difficulties. This appropriate display of weakness can stimulate a protective instinct, but remember to maintain an 80% independent image. The true attraction is never a submissive flattery, but a confident and effortless attitude. The core of these techniques is to maintain a sense of self-worth, and when you no longer rely on feedback from others for happiness, you will reap unexpected results. Remember that the most enduring charm always comes from the true and constantly growing self.