5 signals of weakened marital relationship, two of which should be guarded against

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly realized that my chat history with my significant other was still stuck in the "what did I eat at night" three days ago. This subtle change is like boiling a frog in warm water and is often overlooked by us. The thermometer of emotions will not suddenly drop to freezing point, but the details hidden in daily life have long been quietly piled up like memory junk in a phone.

1. Dialogue changes from "soul resonance" to "transaction notification"

1. Change in communication content

Couples in the honeymoon period can chat for half an hour in the shape of a cloud, but now the conversation only has functional conversations such as "paying utility bills" and "picking up children". Research has found that if the duration of deep communication between partners is less than 15 minutes per day, it can lead to intimacy The density will continue to decrease.

2. The Secret of Emojis

Previously, exchanging emojis could lead to 300 rounds of battles, but now even sending a smiley face is considered troublesome. Linguists have discovered that A 40% decrease in the frequency of using emoticons in confidential relationships often indicates a decrease in emotional engagement.

2. Physical contact becomes an "insulator"

1. Subconsciously avoiding contact

When passing by the other person's side, one will unconsciously turn sideways and sit at the ends of the sofa as if separated by a galaxy. Anthropologists point out that when a partner's daily non sexual physical contact is less than 8 times, the brain begins to redefine the relationship.

2. Metaphor for Sleep Distance

A "38th parallel" gradually appears on the double bed, with each person curled up at the edge of the bed. Sleep laboratory data shows that couples who sleep more than 30 centimeters apart for more than two weeks often experience emotional distance.

3. Fragmentation of shared memory

1. Collective amnesia on anniversaries

How did we celebrate our wedding anniversary last year? Which restaurant did you go to on a date last week? These memories that should have been vivid have become blurred. Neuroscience has confirmed that when the brain deems a relationship not worth investing in, it automatically lowers the priority of storing related memories.

2. Future Plans: When discussing next year's travel plans, one mentioned islands and the other mentioned snow capped mountains, completely different channels. Social psychologists have found that for every 10% decrease in the overlap of a partner's future imagination, the likelihood of a breakup increases by 17%.

4. Emotional response shows "dullness"

1. Happiness is no longer shared

Good news of promotion and salary increase would rather be posted on social media than told to the person next to them in the first place. Behavioral research shows that partners who stop sharing positive emotions experience a 5% monthly decrease in relationship satisfaction.

2. Don't confide when feeling sad

It's better to digest the grievances at work than to expose vulnerability. This' emotional energy-saving mode 'is actually pro The typical symptom of a secret relationship entering a sleep period is like a phone turning on power-saving mode.

5. Spending significantly more time alone

1. Proactively creating physical distance

Suddenly falling in love with overtime, fitness, and gatherings with friends, and not wanting to go home. This is not a sudden outbreak of career ambition, but a subconscious avoidance of family Confidential relationships are like putting a phone in airplane mode.

2. Virtual worlds are more attractive.

I would rather watch a three hour short video than chat with my partner for ten minutes. When digital devices become "emotional mistresses", it often means that there is a shortage of supply in real relationships.

These signals are not notifications of emotional distress, but warning alerts from the relationship system. Just like a phone needs to regularly clean its memory, emotions also require daily maintenance and upgrades. Try to say a few more words at breakfast tomorrow, and bring a flower that the other person likes on the way home. These small but certain warmth are the most effective way to resist the increase in emotional entropy Excellent algorithm.