5 signals for men to use you as a spare tire, one of which should be cautious

I received an ambiguous goodnight message from him at 2 o'clock in the morning. I always have to wait for his "last-minute arrangements" for weekend dates, and only your posts were skipped from my friend circle like list These details are like scattered glass shards on the ground, which cannot be stepped on There is a faint pain in life. The most heart wrenching aspect of contemporary emotional relationships is not direct rejection, but being treated as a Plan B and self comforting with the statement 'he may just be too busy'.

1. Always waiting for him in the time gap

1. Dating is like opening a blind box

Every invitation you receive is "look again", "maybe", "say it later", right Business matters always come before meeting you. What you think of as a romantic dinner is actually the convenience store Kanto style cooking arranged by him after work.

2. Always Suddenly Appearing

Voice after getting drunk late at night, visiting on the way back from a business trip, these seemingly surprising surprises are essentially treating you as a fill in the blank option. A healthy relationship requires time invested in the sunshine, not a random lottery in between.

2. There are invisible barriers in social circles

1. Group photos have never appeared on his phone

He has been in a relationship for six months and has never appeared on his social circle. Friends always say "I'll take you next time" at gatherings, and family members are legendary figures. Your chat records in electronic devices are ten times more than in group photos.

2. Deliberately blank online interaction

Giving likes to mutual friends but not responding to your messages, sharing sad love songs on Weibo but setting them only visible to you. This is not a low-key romance, but a backdoor for other possibilities.

3. Emotional Progress Bar Continues to Stuck

1. Avoidance Relationship Definition

When you ask "What are we now?", you always receive a philosophical answer of "let nature take its course. A person who cannot explain their relationship status for three months may not be able to give you an answer even after three years.

2. The future is always in plural form

When discussing next year's plans, only say "I may want to...", and the topic of buying a house and a car always uses "one person" as the subject, subconsciously without reserving any space for you.

4. Effort is always on the diagonal

1. Severe emotional value deficit

You remember every food he is allergic to, and he even asks "Is it this week?" during your menstrual cycle. The one-sided output of concern is like light thrown into a black hole, without even an echo.

2. The actual investment is comparable to that of a convenience store [SEP]. The birthday gift is a Bluetooth speaker selected for the company's annual meeting, and the anniversary celebration is a group purchase package for two people. Not demanding luxury consumption, but perfunctory giving can erode the foundation of relationships.

5. There are multiple "just friends"

1. Mysterious groups in the address book

A girl always calls late at night and displays "work communication", and her Instagram follow list hides her ex girlfriend's daily life. When his social circle needs to be dissected layer by layer like an onion, you are probably not the only female protagonist.

2. Avoid deep communication

Every time we talk about our views on emotions, we change the topic and check our phones, which is even more stressful than anti-terrorism exercises. Excessive defense often means there is a ghost in the heart, honesty is the key The basic bottom line of confidential relationships. A truly worthwhile relationship does not require detective like insight, let alone a difficult escape room. When you start comparing these signals one by one, the answer is already hidden in the feeling of continuous descent in your stomach. Good love is putting each other in the future tense, rather than living forever in conditional adverbial clauses.