Psychologists secretly share: 4 small things that loving couples are doing

Imagine that you and your partner are lounging on the sofa watching a TV show, and suddenly he puts the last piece of potato chips into your mouth - this tacit gesture may be more effective in warming up the relationship than 999 roses in the outdoor world. Psychologists have found that couples who have been married for many years and are still sweet often hide their love in the sesame seeds and mung beans of their daily lives.

1. Create an exclusive "secret code"

1. Nonsense secret code

Use "eat potatoes tonight" to imply wanting to date, and use "it's time to recharge" as a ceasefire flag to end the argument. These secret words that outsiders cannot understand are like putting an anti-theft lock on emotions.

2. Body Morse Code

Pinch the palm of your hand three times when crossing the street to say "I love you", and kick the other person's toes while eating to remind them not to play with their phone. The privacy created by physical contact Secret frequency, faster to reach the heart than language.

2. Regularly activate "Childhood Mode"

1. During childish game time [SEP], replace serious conversations with pillow fights and rush to blow out each other's birthday candles. When you laugh like two sugar stealing kids, dopamine will help you fall in love again.

2. Share childhood memories

Play with his childhood toy racing car and replicate your mom's signature caramel pudding. These memories with a milky aroma can instantly melt the pressure of the adult world.

3. Create a "third space"

1. Break away from the reality of the small world

Set aside two hours a week, turn off your phone to play board games for two, or hold a concert in the bathroom. There are no mortgages or school district houses in this barrier, only your brainwaves are dancing.

2. Cultivate Common New Skills

Learning pottery or skateboarding from scratch, the clumsy appearance of two rookies supporting each other, can inspire a comradely affection more than any successful learning course Secret.

4. Set "Emotion Buffer"

1. Anger Delay Device

stipulates that when angry, eat a candy first before speaking, and the sweetness will neutralize 40% of aggression. This 10 second cooling off period is enough to make hurtful words twist on the tongue.

2. Happy Savings Jar

Write down the moment when the other person makes you heart flutter on a piece of paper and store it in a glass jar. Pour it out at the end of the year to relive. These glowing fragments will turn into hand warmers in the cold winter. Love is never an eternal flame, but a fire pit that needs to be constantly refilled with firewood. Tomorrow morning, try putting the coffee cup in the shape of a heart or suddenly giving him a morning kiss in a radio gymnastics pose - these are not appropriate The small spark of playing cards on the road may be the secret to keeping your relationship warm.