Don't be silly! He just doesn't like you like this way, let go as soon as possible

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly saw my best friend send me a 60 second voice square, and when I clicked on it, it was all filled with crying "Does he like me or not. Listen carefully, the other party has been unable to read back for three days. They always say they are working overtime during their dates, and even their birthday gifts are chocolates bought at a convenience store. Does this scene resemble a poorly completed idol drama? The biggest fear in relationships is not rejection, but this self doubting 'frog boiled in warm water'.

1. These signals are more honest than language

1. Passive response

The green dialogue box in the chat record fills the screen, and the other party's reply never exceeds five words. There is an unspoken rule among contemporary young people: even if they wipe their hands while taking a shower, they must respond to messages from those they care about.

2. Absent from important moments

When sick, only emojis are used to express condolences, but the award ceremony was promised to come but "suddenly worked overtime". People who truly care about you will follow your life progress bar like watching a drama, instead of staying stuck in the trailer forever.

3. Avoid future topics

When it comes to meeting parents, change the topic and always stay at the "next time" when planning a trip. Adult preferences carry a planning attribute, and vague statements themselves are an attitude.

2. Why do we always engage in self deception?

1. The self-protection mechanism of the brain.

In psychology, there is a "confirmation bias" where we automatically filter out information that does not meet expectations. Just like an automatic beauty camera, it always adds filters to blur relationships.

2. Sunken costs at work

Two years of youth, three cross city trips, countless late night conversations Giving up on these requires more courage than accepting not being loved. But continuing to invest will only make the emotional account suffer more severe losses.

3. Fear of emotional window

Single anxiety turns people into "emotional hamsters", even if they know it's an expired nut, they still hold it tightly. But only by lifting your hands can you catch the gift that truly belongs to you.

III. Self rescue Guide after Awakening

1. Set an observation period

and give yourself two weeks to turn off the emotional filter. Use Excel to record the number of times the other party actively contacts and the date fulfillment rate. Data knows the truth of love better than heartbeat.

2. Reconstruct Social Coordinates

Use the time waiting for his message to attend baking classes, and devote the energy of analyzing his social circle to running a best friend bureau. When life has multiple points of support, the absence of someone will not tilt the world.

3. Start Emotional Separation

Deleting chat records is like clearing a cache, and the body is smarter than imagined. After stopping secreting dopamine, you will find that what you couldn't forget before was just your own fantasy projection.

Always remember that good love is a two-way river, not a one-sided dripping of water. When you start repeatedly questioning whether he likes me or not, the answer is as clear and visible as the white breath exhaled in winter. Those likes that need to be desperately proven are essentially not liked enough. Give yourself a decisive exit to make way for the right person.